To me dogging is too dangerous. You just don’t know who is going to be there, if they’re safe and what they might do.
Safety has to come first in my book and in the end I figure if we did anything beyond grinding, groping, fingering, stroking, then I’d need to know a bit more about the dude.
Well it’s good that you’re thinking about the consequences of doing it. I think there are a lot of people who don’t think about it enough and that can lead to problems.
And things could change between you. I mean, they will to some extent since you’ll have experienced something very sexual. I think the thing for me is to make it something you do together. Communicating a lot beforehand is huge I think but there’s still a chance that she or you could feel different after. She might feel guilty or the opposite, liberated and want more. You might feel strange after hearing your wife make different noises with him than with you. The green eyed monster or jealousy might rear its head.
If we’d done anything sooner I think that might have happened to me/us. But as I matured I got a better perspective and our relationship, our intimacy has grown. I just know we’re so rock solid that nothing could shake it.
I too used to struggle with that post-cum let down. I’d jerk off to the fantasy and right after would think ‘why the fuck do I want this?’ but … 20 minutes later I’d be hard again thinking about it. Over time I haven’t had that let down nearly as much or at all. I don’t know why but I think part of it is just REALLY embracing that it’s okay to want and get off on this.
When you feel secure in your own desires and your marriage a lot of things get a lot more fun.
Not sure that helped but there it is.
I think there’s a lot of truth to that. Many guys are idiots and may try to take advantage of things if you weren’t there. In general, I think being there makes it clear that this is a shared experience. I mean, I’ve never done it so I don’t really know but I certainly think being there would keep things on the right wavelength.
I know the feeling! First things first, do the role play like I suggested and see how that goes and where it might lead.
Great! Have fun with it and don’t break character until she gets home.
Very hot that she comments on the size and hotness of the guys and their cocks.
Totally get the legal side stuff. That is a bit scary. Keep me posted!