I have been in relationships or call it arrangements for about 8 years. I have been fucking the wives of 2 friends continually. I can have a wife nearly as often as I like. If I haven’t been there for a week then I get a call to see whats wrong. The two couples don’t get together only me with them. I can have the girls by themselves or as a three way. We are all happy so why change. If one of my friends goes away on business they make sure I am around.
Thanks for sharing. I guess there’s something to be said for trust and consistency. But I don’t think I’d want a ‘regular’ for that long myself. Variety and spice and all of that.
"what constitutes a "Hot Wife" ? Women's sexuality could be viewed in degrees, like temperature, starting from frozen to boiling. How temperature is your wife. How hot would you like her to be? (And yes, shared fantasies can be as hot or even hotter than the real thing.)
Very true and I am totally aware that I’m VERY lucky that my wife is as playful as she is just with the shared fantasies and role play.
So, yeah, she’s hot. But if we’re going with the temperature thing then I guess she’s not sizzling or blazing hot yet ;)
What defines a 'Hot Wife"? Could a woman who is happy to use toys and role play MFM scenarios and openly talk about her fantasies of being used and fucked by other men with or without her partner being present deemed as a 'Hot Wife'? Or is a 'Hot Wife', in the true sense, a woman who actively takes additional lovers with and without her partner being present. It would be interesting to hear your take on what constitutes a "Hot Wife" -- Super blog keep up the great work.
Well I try not to get too hung up on the words that describe all of this but in my mind being a hot wife means you’re actually following through on the fantasy and doing things.
But that does beg the question as to how far a wife has to go to qualify. Does my wife qualify because she got groped and kissed a few guys while dancing?
In the end I think I have a very hot wife but I wouldn’t tell people ‘in the lifestyle’ that she’s a ‘hot wife’ because that seems to mean she’s the type of woman who will suck and fuck other men.
Think cheating is a bit strong. You may also be right and the husband knew about their secret meets and got off on that. But if he didn’t then he was getting his threesome and watching someone fuck his wife. She gave him all that but missed the ass work and the kinky foreplay. Cheat or not no one got hurt and everyone got what they wanted. Thats important.
No. Because it’s a ticking time bomb if the husband finds out and gets hurt. If you decide to pursue this as a couple you need to do this as a couple.
I teamed with a guy I worked with and fucked his wife. First time when we stripped her I went down on her and then lifted her butt and gave her arse a good licking. The guy asked what I was doing. She told later that he would not fuck her arse and she loved it from previous boyfriends. He didn’t like licking her pussy either. So I would meet her on the quiet, lick and fuck her, both holes without him. We still did the threesome thing for about a year. I could not believe he wouldn't do it.
Not cool that you went behind the husband’s back like that. Though perhaps hubby really did know and they weren’t telling you. But if it was on the down low that’s just cheating :(
Been at my girl for ages to have another man. All she ever said was maybe. Then she told me recently what had happened about a year ago at a business party when a project team she was part of was splitting up. She had the hots for one guy, they had been working together for 4 months. She had often spoken of him about thinks that happened at work.
After some drinks they were alone. They kissed, he felt inside her bra and played with her nipples. Then he had his hand up her skirt rubbing her panties covering her pussy. He was sliding his finger in under her panties when the others called out and then found them. By then they had straightened up and nothing more happened.
She admitted that she was in the mood to let it happen and she would have let him fuck her. She was very sorry. It had worried her for all that time till she told me.
I was beside myself and was all over her and asking more details. She was a bit shocked at my reaction even though previously I had told her I wanted her to have someone else.
I asked if she would have used protection. All she could say was that she doesn’t carry any because she never thought she would need it or do that sort of thing. I asked if he had any and she didn’t know. She then admitted that if they had not been stopped then they would have fucked anyway. This made her even more sorry.
She doesn’t know where he is now as he has left the company where he used to work. Both she and I have tried to find him without any success.
I feel that both she and I have missed our opportunity for her to have another man and for me to know she has. My dream was for her to experience someone else and then maybe include me and go from there. Marc
Thanks for sharing! I don’t think you really missed out unless you just leave it like this. You’ve got something to work with, to talk about. I mean, she was pretty darn close so isn’t it just about confirming that it’s both something you’d want to have happen when the RIGHT guy comes along. Shouldn’t your discussion be about what that guy might look like, be like, and how to find him?
I told you in another post that my wife was supposed to go out with some friends she used to work with. As it turns out those plans began to crumble. She asked me if I would please take her out if things didn’t pan out with her friends. Of course I agreed.
I made up an email because ask stopped me and was in such small bites to give you the entire story… just ignore those other asks the entire story is here.
Dildo buyer. Saturday was a 95% success. We were supposed to go to the nearby lake and take out boat out of the water and get it ready for winter. When we got there it was warm and the sun was out so our plan to do work and then have and early dinner with wine and play got changed.
Instead, it turned out to be the best possible day - we spent more time than I can remember floating in the boat drinking margaritas and talking about all sorts of things that we haven’t talked about for years but mostly we talked about sex. Margaritas are a lubricant for my wife. We talked a lot and covered lots of topics from the toys and playing with them and why I like it. It confuses her why I like it so much. It’s hard for me to fully explain but I explained it was a lot more dick than I could offer her and she frequently repeated that my dick is fine for her and I thanked her for that.
My dick is a pretty average - 6” not super wide but with a big head and it has always gotten the job done. But I said it was much more I wanted her to have than just “bigger” dick it was her experiencing new levels of pleasure and I wanted her to have as much pleasure as possible. The talk lasted some time and eventually lead to us both admitting to threesome fantasies of all kinds but mostly of me talking about wanting her having two cocks at once.
I explained that was the reason I bought a dildo with a suction cup - so “we” could both do her at the same time. We talked about our ex’s and guys that had hit on her and opportunities with girls I’d had since we’d been together (I never took them and neither had she).
That led to me telling her if they hit on her she she should flirt and seriously consider going for it, I just wanted and needed to be a part of it if she went all the way. I even mentioned going to Hedonism in Jamaica to make the threesome fantasy come true in an environment that would be open to the idea and she even left the door open when all she said was, “Well, we’d better not come home having some disease we have to take a bunch antibiotics for!” All the talk and the margaritas led to me fingering her to orgasm in the boat although I wanted to do much more but she wouldn’t have it.
Well, the day in the sun and lots of margaritas was an amazing thing. The day could have ended there and it would have been happy but it wasn’t over yet.
We eventually got back to the house sunburned and pretty drunk and she got in the shower. I told her I’d work on dinner and she should relax after her shower and “get to know” her toys better. She agreed and I got started cooking.
After she was out of the shower he yelled from the shower for me to help her. The dildo has a remote control vibrator in it that wasn’t working and she was trying to figure it out. I messed with the wire which had become frayed and it sorta worked but we have a couple small vibrators I got her too so she decided to just play with those and the dildo.
I went back to cooking dinner and after a 10 minutes or so I look in to see her with the butterfly vibrator and she had the big dildo next laying to her. I should have left her alone to play but I was overwhelmed by the sight so I turned off the stove and went into the bedroom.
It was amazing - she worked the butterfly for a while while I watched and then I lubed up the dildo replaced the butterfly with it. She seemed to be really enjoying it and I was wound up like I can’t remember when. I was sliding fat 7 inch dildo in and out of her and it was going most of the in - certainly further than I could go and she was moaning like mad.
She said she wanted me and earlier I had talked about switching between guys so “she could go all night” and that’s what I thought she wanted so I pulled out the dildo and slipped my cock in her. I was hard as a rock and super excited and stroked until I though I would cum if I stoked once more. I didn’t want to cum yet, so I pulled out and put the dildo back in her.
I held it in front of my cock and used my body to push it in and held on to pull it back out it was like “I” had the big cock and was fucking her with it. She seemed to be enjoying it but then it happened — she seemed to just freak.
She almost started crying and was on the edge of tears. I didn’t know what to do so I just stopped and pulled out the dildo. I asked if I hurt her with the dildo but she said no. I held her for a long, long time.
Eventually she started kissing me we made out for quite a while. I decided to try and eat her pussy. She loves to have her pussy eaten so I did my best to make it good for her - flat tongue with long slow licks switching to quick flicks to her clit, then licking her from her asshole to her clit and long deep probes tongue fucking her pussy. It went on for a long while with her enjoying it and grabbing my head pushing up her hips.
I decided to try again and got the dildo from beside her and slipped it in and she moaned hard. She pushed up with her hips and I even licked her clit while fucking her with the big dildo. She was seemingly on fire and then after several minutes of this it happened again.
She freaked and told me to take it out. I did and she pushed me away. I tried to hold her but it was over. My balls were under amazing pressure and she said she wanted me to fuck her and rolled over. I was still very hard and slid inside her from behind but I was really concerned about her freaking out and I felt like it was a mercy fuck for me and I went soft and just quit. The night was over. We held each other and fell asleep with her hand holding my cock.
We had to get up early to do the work we didn’t do when we were floating but we both said how great the day before had been and she even made a snarky but positive remark about the toys while I had them on the sink washing them up.
While it didn’t end perfectly I still think it was a huge step in the right direction because we got so much out on the table. Her emotional conflict was kinda crazy for me but I know she knows that I love her so much it hurts even if she doesn’t understand my kinky desires. Hell, I’m not fully sure I understand it.
I think we probably covered more ground in a single day than she could handle or maybe it brought back other memories that I she hasn’t shared with me. I think I need to repeat the cooling off period now and let her her it up again. Still the day on the water was amazing and she has said that several times. For me and at least part of the time for her, the sex was great while it lasted….I have to go JO cause now I’m all worked up again thinking about it!
Thank you for sharing! So I would definitely go with another long cooling off period. The time on the water sounds like a really awesome experience of connecting on a very intimate level. That’s what happens when you share your sexual secrets and talk openly. Awesome to hear this.
The breakdown seems like either a conflict of her own sexuality (liking it but thinking she shouldn’t like it) or that she’s uncomfortable doing it FOR you, basically doing something she’s not totally on board with. But her comments after the fact making light of it seem promising in some ways.
Did you ask about what the breakdown meant for her? What it was about? Tough subject but really the BIG question.
Keep connecting and keep having fun! Thanks for the update!
I would like to think I am training my young wife but I fear it is me who is adjusting to her wants. She is 15 years younger than me. We have friends over mainly male but some with partners. We have a pool and Carlie wears only bikini bottoms, a G. Its white and when wet, see through. She is smooth and you can see her slit. She has played before in a previous relationship so I think its possible that we are heading there. She says not but she enjoys the show.
Well, the question is whether you want something more to happen? If you’re reading this Tumblr the answer is probably yes so why not just chat with Carlie and see where both your heads are at :)
My wife has the need of other lovers and I choose to let that happen. Now Tina has her current choice visit her in our detached studio while I keep the family away. This happens about once a week when the lovers wife travels with her work. At this stage I don’t take part. I couldn’t watch or join in. It would be too much. I enjoy the after and her descriptions. She calls his manhood the Weapon of Mass De FUCK ion. We have good sex when we are together. Jad
Thanks for sharing! Funny name for his manhood. It feels like you’re torn from how you write this tho.
Personally, I know weekly is not the frequency I’d want and I’d also want to be there. If you’re enjoying it all, keep going but if you aren’t, make a change.
DIldo buyer. Last night we had a talk about replacing a car that we both like but it's old and has lots of miles. It's a fun little convertible. I was being practice and say we needed something bigger and that the convertible was a toy. She smiled at me and said - I like toys. I replied well then this weekend we will have to get your toys out and play. she said - I hope so. I went instantly hard! The cooling off period seems to have paid off! I'm Excited for Saturday night!
Yes! That’s perfect. Great that she brought it up and you followed through and picked up on her lead. Can’t wait to hear how it goes.
When you are both comfortable in a relationship it comes more easily. I have shared my beautiful wife many times. She’s also had sex with men without me. Though the best for me was my last birthday. She had her lover and his visiting buddy. Her lover was bareback as usual and his friend played safe with a condom. I just watched and stroked myself until they rested. I then ate her which is bliss then fucked her. They then had her again while she sucked me back to life. Roll on this birthday.
Thanks for sharing! Sounds like a great relationship and a fantastic birthday gift!
My friend who was married had another girl as a fuck buddy. He included me with her a couple of times. She and I started going out, moved in together and married. He was a bit disappointed at first but we still included him fairly often and the fun returned. A while ago his marriage turned to shit and then he started to demand more of my wife and other privileges. No longer fun so she ended it. I felt it had to be her decision. Pity it had lasted 5 years. Hope he gets happy again.
Wow, what a web you three spun! I think it might be best that he doesn’t return given his entitlement issues. The question is whether your wife would want to replace him with another stud for some threesome fun?
Hi. H.D again the writer of Fantasy or Reality and Risk or No Risk postings.
Your response to the Risk or No Risk article and in particular your comments appertaining to the point of people finding it hard to be more than one identity by expressing: “how can a woman be a good mother yet give her husband a blowjob in a public place” lifts the lid off a whole new level of turning a women into a hot wife.
I am sure there are many of the followers of this blog, not to mention the millions of men who don’t, who all share a common secret desire to see their partner taking an extra cock or two. It’s that transition from a mother by day to an unrecognisable ‘slut by night’ that is such an irresistible urge in all of us.
As much as we think they are the same person they are not.
As I mentioned in the previous post, the difference between a woman who enjoys a good old MFM session and those who would revolt at their husbands very mention of the idea of MFM role play is purely down to a psychological difference and not a physical one.
The internet clearly demonstrates the endless number of women who are more than happy to display their sexuality by posing for nude snaps to hardcore porn. Is it for the money? Well for those select few professional porn models the answer is yes, but for the majority of the ‘everyday’ women whom are happy to display their sexuality for all to see the reward is in the sexual kick - the deviance of the social conventions.
Of course these ‘everyday’ women don’t want to be harassed by some pervert who has recognised them from the ‘net’ as they go about their daily business as he asks them if they want a ‘quickie’ in the supermarket car park. After all it is and it isn’t the same women.
We all have an alter ego, and for those who don’t know what an alter ego is I would strongly suggest you look it up. However, I can assure you that you have more than likely met your wife’s or partners alter ego many, many times without even knowing it.
If you have just checked out what an alter ego is and come back to continue reading this post you’ll now know that that your wife’s or partner’s alter ego is the women who acts out of her everyday character - a totally different person to whom you know. She dresses and appears in many different guises, but for the purpose of this post and the subject of hot wives she is a ‘slut’ and a women with a totally different mindset to the everyday women who cooks our meals, washes our clothes, and tenders to our children.
Her alter ego will only come out to play when it takes HER fancy and when SHE feels the time is right. - It’s not what you want, she’s in control, even if it means she wants to lose control. It’s her game and she calls all the shots.
So when you look at all these delectable everyday women that happily display their charms for all to see, or who indeed become a hot wife and take more than one cock whether it be in role play or reality it is their alter ego at play.
I am sure there are many of those wishful followers now beginning to wonder if their wife or partner has an alter ego. Well of course she does. Who do you think is controlling her mind and thoughts when she’s secretly rubbing her pussy and having wild uninhibited fantasies? Do you think your wife or partner is dreaming of being made love to on a sheepskin rug beside a blazing fire when she’s having a wank? Of course not, she’s fantasising about having wild un-inhibitive sex. She’s being fucked in all holes, having her face and mouth covered in spunk and you know what???….She loves it.
But, and this is the big but….would she admit to you what she has secretly been dreaming of??? I think you already know the answer to that question.
So how do you coax your wife or partner’s alter ego out to play? How do you turn your everyday, devoted loving wife by day into a ‘slut by night’ After all isn’t she the one you want to play with?
It can be done, look at all the other women that have revealed the ‘slut within’ - You just never know who or where she could be. It could be the woman you’re standing next to at the checkout, or the woman at work. Like all women the one thing they all have in common is that they don’t reveal their ‘secret side’ - they don’t introduce you to their alter ego unless you know how to feed it’s desires and coax it from its lair.
Of course there is more to follow this posting, and I’d be happy to share my thoughts and understanding of how you can turn your wife or partner into the vamp you so wishfully desire her to be. But as this blog can only continue with the support and input from its followers I think you should at least be sending in some comments of how easy you turned your wife into a hot wife, or indeed what difficulties and resistance you are facing. After all this is a community to share our thoughts and to expand our knowledge.
Let’s get a good discussion started and let’s get an insight into what goes on, and off, in our bedrooms. Whether it be role play or real play come on guys put your fingers to the keyboard and tell us your experiences.
Do you want the next episode? …. Let me know.
Good stuff here but I think it’s more than just an alter ego. In fact, the alter ego to me is a different person. It’s the Hulk and not David Banner. Many people resort to an alter ego to explore their fantasies. A lot of men might have bisexual tendencies but only do so under an alter ego.
Because trying to admit that it’s part of YOU is vastly more difficult. But that’s where I think the path to really exploring this stuff happens. I could be dead wrong since I haven’t made it happen but I think being comfortable with the idea that you are a loving wife, caring mother and kinky woman all at the same time leads to a better result.
In some ways I think tapping into the alter ego is probably easier if you’re trying to persuade your partner to do this. You release it but then if they do anything how do they feel about it afterwards because like it or not ALL those egos have to live with it. That’s the issue I think.
Some might be able to compartmentalize but I hope my wife finally feels more comfortable with the idea that she’s a great wife and mom but also loves kinky sex. She’s said as much that sometimes she feels a bit guilty about getting off on certain things. She was talking about DP with me and a toy in this case. But that she knows she shouldn’t and doesn’t really anymore.
I think accepting your WHOLE self might set folks free. I would LOVE to hear more from the husbands and particularly the wives since we’re talking about you when we might not know what the fuck we’re talking about.
Smoking hot roleply, my wife and I have been doing some as well. As to your question as to what it means? Wow, could be so many things or nothing! Could mean just what she has said I love playing at home but that's it or I think it means every time you do these things she is getting more & more comfortable with it. Your threesome prob won't be tomorrow or the next day... but I think it will be someday. Your thoughts?
Thanks! What do I think it means? I think that she’s probably surprised that she came that hard and she’s thinking about our sex without the role play which has been great but not like that. So I think she’s certainly thinking that doing these things heightens our sex life and she loves that.
I think she’s getting further confirmation about how much it turns me on and is getting more comfortable with the idea that it turns HER on too. That’s been an ongoing thing I think with her realizing that it’s not just doing this stuff to turn me on but that it winds up turning her on just as much and the massive orgasms sort of confirm that for her.
So I don’t think she’s thinking ‘because of this I will do this other thing’ but I think she it’s probably giving her more ideas about how far she could go with this, whether it’s in role play or going out and flirting.
She seems pretty confident that I won’t get mad because of something she does which was an early worry so it’s really all about thinking about how much I want it (and she is seeing just how much) and her thinking about whether she wants to indulge that side of herself. The roleplay does help that I think.
Dildo buyer... What you described in "the-other-night" is the entire reason i bought her the big dildo. If i had that, I dont know what else I could ask for - Congratulations! Gonna go reread it and JO imagining it was me and my wife!
Thanks! It was pretty amazing and I hope you get the same thing with your wife soon too.
So the other night we had a bit of roleplay with the 8 inch (and thick) dildo. The result was my wife having a really huge orgasm. And I also had a massive one afterwards.
Using the dildo we talked about how amazing it looked as she got fucked by a big cock. I told how hot it was to see her lips stretch around his cock. I got up next to her and kissed her neck as I slid it in and out of her pussy.
She seems to feel a bit guilty at first feeling so good with that cock in her. “Oh god, he’s going to make me cum” she whines.
And I tell her that’s what I want to see and hear and that seems to be what she needed to hear because then she’s getting in a different position. She wants it from behind and she starts taking it really deep.
"Oh fuck, you’re taking him all." i rasp.
She laughs a little devilishly. “You didn’t know I could take such a big cock huh?”
We keep going like that until she has a truly massive orgasm. Really really hard and keeps cumming for a LONG time.
As she starts to come down from it, just laying there recovering I kiss her and tell her how awesome that was and how much I loved watching and hearing her cum on his big cock.
She’s concerned that I haven’t cum yet but I tell her that was more than enough. (My cock has precum oozing out of it anyway.)
But soon we’re spooning and she asks. ‘Don’t you want sloppy seconds?’
Fuck! So pretty quickly we’re positioning my cock and I slide into her very hot and different feeling pussy. I’m not sure I’d say loose but it was stretched and hot from that thick 8 inch cock going in and out of her for the last 20 minutes.
'Can you feel how hot I am?” she asks. “Can you feel how that big cock stretched my pussy?” she asks. Fucking hell! Did she just say that? I go crazy and tell her I can and that it feels amazing and in the next few seconds start to cum and begin to fuck her as hard as I can and I keep going in such a frenzy that she cums yet again.
And then we’re done and we’re both spent but very very happy and we both comment the next day, her before me, how amazing the sex was.
I don’t know if it moves anything further along into reality but it was just amazingly incredibly hot.
As a woman whose hubby has let her explore many of my fantasies, I know why Karen let Alex have his friend join them. I love my hubby dearly and always make sure he feels number one even when I am with a lover. I have been with 2 other men without hubby and did not care if or either man got the most enjoyment. She also called him and told him straight away once she did it which suggests to me that she knew her husband would be turned on by it which he was.
Thanks for sharing! It’s VERY nice to hear a woman’s point of view. And you’re right. She could have and probably did know that her husband would be turned on by her being with two other men. I made an assumption that perhaps he wanted to be there but it could just be the way their sexual relationship has developed.
What I really like that you make sure hubby always feels like he’s number one. I think the key is that you know you’re doing this to heighten your sexual relationship with your spouse.
Of course the sex is pretty hot but it’s that you’re doing it ‘with’ your spouse that makes it mindblowing :)
Dildo buyer. Nothing happened this weekend. I didn't push and had decided to wait before getting it out. We had errands to do with the promise of alone time after. One stop didn't happen. It was Dick's Sporting Goods. I innocently said, "we're not going to get to Dick's today" and her response was "I was looking forward to dicks--maybe when we get home" I went rock hard! That's as far as I can imagine she will go to ask. But we were tired so nothing happened. Encouraging for next time tho!
Glad nothing happened that weekend and look at what happened as a result. Personally I think it’s great that she was the one who brought it up again the next time. That means when you bring it up again it won’t be like it’s just you you you pushing it on her.
So the next time you use it you maybe even mention that comment. I mean, telling her how hard that comment made you is important. Make her feel great about talking naughty like that.
To whoever wrote Our first fuck party, I think first time threesome stories where the wife doesn't know she is getting ready to have a threesome are the hottest! I sure would like to hear her side of the story!!!!
Hi as the writer of the Fantasy or Reality submission I would like to thank and congratulate the person who responded with such an intellect and thought provoking reply. It is responses such as this that makes this blog stand head and shoulders above the rest. As he states it’s not about the pictures, which as well all know can be found in abundance on many a tumblr site, but more importantly it is our desire to understand our emotional and psychological behaviour that is the driving and stimulating factors towards wive sharing.
The responder brings to light may different aspects between fantasy and reality and maybe I should have titled the posting as Risk / No Risk and this depends on who’s eyes we are looking through.
Yes we all know there are risks attached to everything we do whether that be a simple drive to the shops or taking the deepest of dives to the bottom of the oceans, but the point I was making is the risk a woman must consider towards MFM sex, especially if being (gently) pushed persuaded or even manipulated by her partner, will be based on the time, devotion, loyalty, motherhood, success, wealth, social standing etc, etc that she has invested in the relationship over the many years of time together.
I think it is fair to say that if the roles of sexuality were reversed and it was women pushing us men to participate in extra marital MFM sex then the response would undoubtedly and completely be different in that we’d jump in feet first without a second thought towards the risk we were taking as we cry “bring it on”
For sure the world would be a far more promiscuous place and the description ‘slut’ would truly apply to us men.
So as intelligent (well I’m sure many women would contest that description) and considerate men we are, who have undeniable lustful urges we have to look through the eyes of our women in order to find the button and solution that unleashes those lustful desires that lays buried deep in the souls of our partners.
We know those feelings are there, so how do you coax them out to play?
Do we approach it with the stick or with the carrot?
The stick is the manipulator, the push to fulfil our desires at the expense of the other and that’s where a woman will feel used and manipulated.
The carrot is the motivator and that’s where the secret lies in unlocking that desire.
Motivate someone and they themselves will justify the risk for the joy and the pleasures they are rewarded with.
When you think about it what is the difference between those women that swing and those that don’t?
The answer…. NOTHING other than their mindset and what they believe is right or wrong for them (high risk / low risk) In other words it’s a physiological difference and not a physical difference.
Change that mindset and you’ll change your woman and also change your life.
So the question is whether that change is for the better or for the worse…. And again that depends upon who’s eyes you view the risk through.
Reverse those roles of sexuality and the women could LOVE the attention of two or more guys and the man on the other hand could soon start feeling it’s a risk too far.
Are you prepared to let the genie out of the bottle?????
Excellent conversation going on here! I do think there’s a lot to be said for the idea that it’s a change in mindset. That there’s some pivotal way someone thinks about sexuality, their marriage or life in general. The question is how you help your partner to feel comfortable evolving.
Or at least that’s how I see it. So many of us feel like we’re supposed to do certain things and behave in certain ways. It’s more difficult for some than others do break form these conventions. I think it’s far more difficult for women because of double-standards, safety concerns and the mindfuck of being a sexual creature, wife and mother sometimes all at the same time.
Frankly, people find it hard to be more than one thing. How can I be a good mother if I like to give my husband blowjobs in public places? Of course you can but those are two different parts of your self and I think many people aren’t able to have the different parts live together.
And finally there is some risk in everything but I’d like to think there’s less of it with a truly committed marriage. I don’t know, better doing this then cheating which happens all to frequently. Is it more risky to deny your sexuality and desires? I think it might.
As for uncorking the bottle. I know I’m ready :) Looking forward to more conversations about this. The reasons why we want this and why we don’t follow-through on it are pretty interesting.
Excellent page. Good to see so many like me like to treat their wives to extra cock. We live in UK. I’m 66, wife 52. She has always up for it, I’m slowing. Solved, she now has two chaps about 40, both married but looking for more. They work local in jobs which lets them call to see to her. They phone and pop in for an hour. She never will have them together but often in the same day. I often watch or listen. It can stir me on to continue with her after they leave. She is a prize.
Thanks for sharing! Glad you are both enjoying things and know you’ve got quite the lady.
For reasons I can not explain, I had the strong desire to watch my wife have sex with another man & to join them in 3 way action. I’m not gay & have no desire to inner act with a man, I just felt 2 men could give a woman much more pleasure than one.
I am also a voyeur & love to watch people having sex, so watching the woman I love being pleasured was a big turn on for me. Every thought I had of some man doing my wife gave me a raging hardon. I never had a particular person in mind, just a faceless body pleasuring her body in every way.
I had tried on several occasions to entice her into fulfilling my desires, to no avail. She came from a very religious family & was very old fashioned about marriage & sex. I had just about given up on my dream being fulfilled, but this one fateful day came around & the following is a true rundown of that day & evening.
One Sunday afternoon my best friend dropped by for a visit & we sat around listening to some good country music. We were having a few drinks. Al didn’t drink very often so she got a little high rather quickly. The combination of alcohol & the music made her loosen up a little & I got the feeling that maybe I could get her to progress toward some party sex.
Danny was a very good looking guy & I knew he had the hots for my wife, I had never told him of my desire to watch her fucked by another man or even mentioned him to Al as a man to party with. I knew she liked him as a friend but doubted if she ever thought of him sexually.
We had both been dancing with her all evening & I could see the higher she got the looser she was becoming. I could see her lightly pushing herself into him as they slow danced & I could see the bulge in Danny’s pants & was sure she was feeling his cock rubbing against her.
Finally I decided it just might be a good time to try for a party as she was plenty loose & giddy, I took a deep breath & said “hey guys why don’t we play a game of strip poker & liven this party up a little” I almost fell over when she said ” OK it sounds like fun, but only down to our underwear not all the way” I said sure at least I’ll get a little hint of having my desires fulfilled.
So pushing it forward I suggested an adult version of spin the bottle instead of the cards as we were all a little drunk & probably couldn’t hang onto the cards & shuffle them. They both agreed that spin the bottle sounded like fun. I laid out the rules, since there were only three of us, one would spin the bottle then whoever it pointed to got to tell one of the other two what they had to do.
Since it was strip spin the bottle the person being told what to do had to remove another persons article of clothes & to do it in a way that would be hard to do ( like use only one hand, behind your back, using feet, teeth, etc.) anything to make it fun & hard to do.
Lucky me I got first choice as the bottle pointed to me, I told Danny he had to remove Als blouse while they were sitting on the floor back to back. Since he could not see what he was doing his hands were coming in contact with her perky little tits an added bonus was the fact the blouse had lots of very small buttons to undo so it was going to take a while. I sat & watched as his hands brushed her tits again & again. I was getting turned on watching him with Al I started rubbing my hard cock, as Al saw me rubbing myself a cute little smile crossed her lips.
I got the feeling she was enjoying the touch of his hands. I told Danny to be nice now & don’t be trying to grab a hand full of her tits. He just grinned & said you mean like this & filled both his hands with her tits. A soft moan escaped her lips & I watched as she pushed her chest into his hands, I thought damn I may get my dreams filled after all, I sure did not expect she would respond like that. Finally he got the blouse off & the game continued soon we were all down to just our underwear. Al said OK games over we are all down to our undies & that is as far as I’m going,
My mind raced for some way to keep things going, so I said nope not yet we are not even, me & Danny only have one piece of clothing on, our shorts you have two items on so you have to lose one more item to be fair. She hemmed & hawed a little bit but with a little prodding by both me & Danny she finally said alright let’s continue but if I have to lose one more item you guys do to, I said fine but we will be totally nude, so you have to get that way too. After a little more pushing she finally agreed.
The first spin the bottle pointed at me so I had Al remove Danny’s shorts by being on her knees in front of him & to only use the thumb of her left hand. She knelled down & started being right handed made it a little harder for her as she was pushing & pulling with one hand trying to get his shorts over his hips I could see Danny’s cock getting bigger & bigger. Soon she slid his pants off his hips & leaned in toward him to get a better position to pull the back down. As his shorts slid over his throbbing cock it flipped up & slapped her under the chin. We all laughed as Danny stood there with his hard cock right in her face & she said “Damn Danny why did you hit me in the face” He replied “I was looking for a hole to put it in” We all had a good laugh over that one.
Next I lost my shorts so here we are two totally naked men with stiff cocks & a hot little babe in her bra & panties. Al spun the bottle & it pointed at me so I told Danny he had to remove Als tight little bikini panties with his hands behind his back & use only his teeth.
Danny knelt in front of Al starting to try to get hold of her panties I warned him to not get hold of her skin & bite her cause if he did she would have to pull her panties up & he would have to start over, we laughed as Danny kept trying to get those tight panties in his teeth without biting her.
I could see the passion building in both of them as Danny tried to get those panties off, of course being a normal man Danny was taking full advantage of the situation nuzzling her mound every once in a while, once he put his mouth fully on her mound & pushed his face into her little cunt. An ever so slight moan escaped her lips & I watched as she pushed back into him. It took several minutes for him to get them down & I kept hearing soft little moans from her as he nuzzled around her hot little cunt.
My cock was about to burst I now knew there was a great chance I would at long last get to watch as my baby is kissed, licked, stroked & fucked by another man. Finally with nothing but a bra left Dan got to call the shot. He had Al sit on a small foot stool & I was to stand behind her & remove her bra using only two fingers,
Danny sat cross legged on the floor right in front of Al & watched as I tried to remove her bra, I pretended I was having problems, I could have had it off in seconds but I drug it on for several minutes, my hard cock poking Al in the back, Danny sitting on the floor in front of her staring at her juicy little pussy & stroking his rock hard cock. He was getting hotter by the second & so was she, she started to slowly open her legs a little & close them back, then open again I watched as she squirmed on the stool moving her legs open more & more.
Finally I popped her bra loose & pulled it off her tits I grabbed both of Al’s wrists & held her arms above her head, saying there you go Danny a nice view of her sweet titties. She didn’t seem to mind & even moved around a little & pushed her chest out towards Danny. He took a quick look but his eyes were more or less glued to her sweet pussy as she was still slowly opening & closing her legs.
I asked Danny if he would like to give her cunt a few licks, he replied he would love to so I told him to spread her legs & kiss her pussy. She cried out no!! and closed her legs Danny looked at me & I said go ahead kiss her hot cunt. Danny reached down & gently pulled on her legs I was shocked to see how fast she spread wide open for him.
Danny started to work on her hot cunt Al was moaning & thrusting into him but at the same time she was trying to get her arms loose from my grip & saying no! no! no! she fought harder & harder so I decided I’d better let her loose after all I wanted a fun party not a rape, However all the time she was fighting me she was thrusting into Danny’s hot mouth. I let go of her wrists & stepped back expecting her to jump up & start reading me the riot act, I figured the party was over.
What happened next blew me away, I no longer had a hold of Al yet her arms were still in the air flailing away as if she was still being held, still saying no! no! no! but still humping Danny’s face. She was only fighting me at the same time spreading her legs farther & farther apart & humping Danny harder & harder.
I decided she was so damn hot she was not really aware of what she was doing,I knelt down, held her in my arms gave her several kisses & started sucking & kissing her titties, all the while Danny is really giving her hot cunt a good going over. I suggested we all go to the bedroom, Al huskily breathed hell yes, she jumped up from the stool grabbed me & Danny by the cocks & led us to the bedroom.
She climbed on the bed laid on her back spreading her legs saying, here you go Danny & to me, she said You get my boobies & lips for now. There we were my dream world come true, my hot wife laying on the bed opening her hot cunt to my best friend & wanting me to kiss & hold her.
Danny buried his throbbing cock in her juicy cunt thrusting away like a jackhammer, Al was shoving her pussy up to meet every stroke & started having massive orgasms, one after another. I was totally shocked at how much raging passion she displayed, all due to a strange cock filling her juicy cunt.
Needless to say it was a fantastic night. Danny & I did any & every thing to my hot little wife’s body that night. I can’t tell you how many times she was fucked but Danny & I both filled that hot cunt several times. When it wasn’t being fucked it was being licked, kissed, sucked, fingered. We gave every inch of her body all the pleasure we could muster for over six hours.
Danny was a great partner to share my wife with & we continued to party with him for several years, he had fucked Al well over a hundred times in that time, as he spent more time with us than with his wife. He would come over 2 or 3 times a week and almost every weekend, The nights were 2 or 3 hour party sessions, but the weekends usually lasted all day and well into the night.
You said that your wife made a comment about every women wanting to be a "naughty girl" this sounds like a good role playing idea. Tell her you want to play with the naughty girl this weekend just the two of you and some toys. Maybe you can get her to put on a show for you.
Yes. Not a bad idea. This weekend was crazy but this week and weekend I can definitely see this happening. I think I figured out which dildo she uses when she masturbates now too which is fun.
Dildo buyer here. Bought flowers, lots of things done at home, wine bought, dinner planned for tonight. I've been spending lots of effort to bring back the feeeling when we younger. If thing go well maybe we can get the dildo out again and I can share her with the dildo tonight or this weekend. I love how she looks when she cums so hard on the big dildo. I wish I had enough cock to do that to her. But i do have a good tounge that gets her off really well.
Good to hear from you but hopefully you didn’t break it out again. I’d wait another week before I did. Going slow and having her not feel like that’s your motivation hell maybe even having her ask for it is where it’s at IMO.
I don’t want my wife to fuck anyone else but she loves to be naked and expose herself. She does have a top body and works out to keep it. Most of our friends have seen her totally nude. She is waxed and has a ring through her clit hood. I have seen guys down looking closely at it and droplets of juice forming on her pussy lips. It turns her on but she doesn’t want to go further and thats where I’m at also. We both get off talking about their reactions later.
Hey, whatever turns you both on is what you should do! Though I think with most things there’s a point where what you’re doing no longer gives the same thrill so you do a bit more. Maybe that never happens or maybe you both get there together. Just keep having fun!
I have to say that this is a great blog too. I have visited others and there is something about this one that makes it completely different to me. Though I can’t put my finger right on it, for me it’s more about the conversation than the pictures.
Like “fantasy or reality” said, it’s about the intellect on the behalf of the blog owner. I think he’s got his head in the right place. It’s the followers giving continual support and it is the king of reality shows to me. So with that said I hope there is a happy ending in that he gets to watch her with another man and she gets to experience in reality what excites her during role play!
To me encouraging her to be with other men is totally part of being a loyal and loving partner. I don’t use the word manipulate because the meaning for the word according to the dictionary is “control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously”.
If it were one sided and only for him to enjoy then manipulate would be a fair enough word. But in a lot of these cases the woman holds back due to what society has deemed bad behavior not because she doesn’t really want to indulge in some over the top sex. I personally dislike the word slut for example as it is unfairly pinned on the women, not men, when they like sex.
What if a man is always showing brochures and information of a romantic vacation in Tahiti but the wife feels that the monies spent on a trip such as this would be better put toward retirement? Would he be manipulating her when he continues to show how much he desires this trip? No, he would be trying to persuade her to rearrange their priorities a little to allow for a fantastic adventure she quite certainly would enjoy if she could just let her guard down a little on the till.
While I am talking about meanings of words how about fantasy? The meaning is “the faculty or activity of imagining things, especially things that are impossible or improbable”. There is nothing impossible or improbable in two consenting adults participating in a MFM romp. These are not fantasies they are cages we restrict ourselves into while we try to accept our lives with less than we desire and it’s time to break free of them if we so wish.
I see my wife as an incredibly desirable and sexy woman. To encourage her to enjoy her sexuality is not losing focus to what is important. I can umbrella importance by saying she is important to me period and letting her enjoy her amazing beauty and sexuality while she is still young is part of what is under that “her importance” umbrella.
I get “the pressures of being used and violated” but to me those pressures and so called violations are instilled in us from antiquated institutions. Even though their pressures are relieving as we go forward there is not much going on in the way of social discussion that would unravel the constraint they have left on us.
This lifestyle is something to be kept discreet between only the involved parties. So too bad that these pressures can’t be replaced with trust and support so that it puts some spring into our step. It sure would mine if I knew my wife felt completely sexually free and didn’t have to feel labeled as a slut in doing so.
Having been lucky, in that my wife has done this with me a couple times, I can say the real thing is better than the view from the cage. It is what you both make of it. If one of you love this and the other is not really into it then there is little chance for this to become a common interest in life.
I love what the owner of this blog replied when asked “would you take the risk”? Of course we would take a risk because we take risks all the time. Every time we overtake a car or fly to get somewhere fast or an otherwise unreachable place, we take a risk a calculated risk. If we scuba dive or rock climb we are risk taking but the adventurous still go for it.
Conversations and expressions of our desires are calculations. Risk is that once we start it either becomes an addiction to one or that the wife entangles emotionally with the third party. If done right, as in openly talked about, I doubt that any of these risks would ever bear fruit.
We all come here because we like the stories that go well. We like it when the blog owner remains with a thread of hope even after taking major let downs. Most of us are here because we desire this a great deal and we don’t understand why the females are not easy to sell this too. We are hoping to find the magic method to make the dream come true. We mostly walk on eggs thinking that if we plan carefully each step our chances for success are greater.
Most all of us believe we have been graced by ending up with such a beautiful woman to call our life partner. For a lot of us there is a great deal of risk of simply speaking our minds of the subject to our partners never mind the risks associated with living the hotwife lifestyle.
We also come here because we it makes us feel that we are not alone in the way we feel and that we are not wrong or sick. I for one am envious of couples that do this and go on living healthy, loving lives. In writing this I hope to help remove the stigma for any woman that visits this site looking to find out why their man wants this so much.
THANK YOU! This is simply amazing and puts so many of my feelings into words. The last four paragraphs are so dead on. I think many men who have this fantasy adore their wives. They do feel like they’ve won the lottery. Wake up and can’t believe their luck.
And I do often walk on eggs hoping not to do or say the wrong thing that will unravel the direction of things. It’s sometimes exhausting but as ‘anon’ says it’s not manipulation it’s about persuasion and encouraging our partners to do something we feel we’ll both enjoy.
A long time ago my wife hadn’t tried anal and at first she was really not wanting to try but I kept persuading her and then a funny thing happened. We did it and she had a massive anal orgasm and now she loves anal.
There is risk. But like I and ‘anon’ says, risk is everywhere and what I try to say through this blog is that couples can take the risk together and deal with it together. If you’re a strong couple and you’re approaching things the right way I feel like the odds are in your favor.
Either way, wouldn’t you rather regret what you’ve done rather than what you haven’t?
Hi great blog. Have you ever stopped to think that your wife may feel you value your desires to see her with another man more than you value her as your loyal and loving partner? You are obviously a smart, articulate and intelligent guy, and give out lots of good and useful advice, but do you ever stop to think our fantasies can blur our judgement as to what is really important to us?.
Given that your wife recently drew a line in the sand shows she has her reservations, and for good reasons too most likely. Underneath she may be feeling pressured and feels that if you ever got your wishes she would feel as though you have manipulated her to fulfil your desires, not to mention being left with the feeling of being used and violated.
Could it be that the fantasy is far greater than reality in that it has no let downs, no guilty side effects and can be as wild and uninhibited as the imagination can be.
Would you be prepared to take one bold step across the line in your lust fuelled desires and gamble the close loving relationship you share with your wife for the sake of fulfilling your dreams?
In the cold light of day I am sure there are people who that have once bitten the ‘forbidden fruit’ can’t get enough, but then there is always a flip side and I’m sure there are many couples who have put their marriage under strain and pressure and wish they had lever let the genie out of the bottle.
It would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this subject and in particular read the replies from those whom have either lived to regret the moments their wife gave into their husbands desires or loved every single experience.
Great bog and I think I speak for all of your followers - we wish you well whatever the outcome.
Thanks for this and I mean that. I think about these things a lot actually. I believe that my wife used to think that my fantasy might have eclipsed my feelings for her personally but that’s no longer the case. She is now crystal clear in understanding how much she means to me and that our relationship is the number one thing in our life.
But because we’re so close I’m able to be honest with her and tell her the urges and fantasies I have. Holding those back would ultimately hurt the relationship I think. And at times we talk or talk around the pressure she might feel to indulge in my fantasies. But overall I think she’s far more at peace with things now.
I’m pretty sure part of her wants to follow through on this but another thinks that doing so could screw up the awesome marriage we have. That’s pretty much what holds her back. But she flirts with the idea more and more seeing how I react. So if she ever did a bit more would she blame me? I don’t know. I don’t think so. She doesn’t blame me for dance night.
Of course, the fantasy is safer and it can be intoxicating in and of itself. And i’ve stated before that if that’s as far as it goes it’ll still be amazing. But I think going further, even just a little or perhaps all the way would be great too and I am confident that we’d be fine afterwards.
Would we be different? Sure. You can’t do this and not change. But every time we’ve explored sexually it brings us closer and in some ways doing something so taboo, that has to be secret, might bring us even closer still.
Of course it could blow up. You can’t be 100% sure things are going to work out. Just like you don’t know when you get in the car that you aren’t going to get into an accident. And that is scary. What if it goes horribly wrong and it’s like a cancer in your marriage from then on? But we’ve been through a lot and we’re being SUPER slow and careful so the odds of that are extremely low I think.
But for sure I take all of this seriously and think about it a lot and think about balancing love and sex, exploration and safety.
I lived with my father. He moved his younger girlfriend in when I was a teenager. We got on well. She taught me lots about sex. She would suck and wank me. She also let me see her dress and undress and she showed me how to pleasure a woman with her own fingers. She never let me fuck her and I used to beg her. She would just suck me again. I used to hear my father fucking her and loved that. These days my wife has a lover and I love to listen to them. Its better than being there.
Thanks for sharing! Well if this isn’t a clear connection between youthful imprinting and adult sexual arousal I don’t know what is!
Great blog! Following! Just some advice, always go at her pace and don't let the desire overwhelm you. You can lose yourself quickly if you're not careful. Besides, it's much more fun when you are both traveling at the same speed. Good luck!
Thanks! And I know from experience that letting your own desire and fantasy push things faster in real life backfires. So yes! Slow down and make sure you’re dealing with the reality of things and not the fantasy.
This writing is an attempt to explain my feelings from sharing my wife with other men.
There really is no other feeling that matches what it’s like to see your wife on her back, her arms flung over her head, spreading her thighs as another man moves into position to fuck her, his body taking the place of yours. I can’t help revisiting the intense feelings that these moments generate – seeing his hard throbbing cock next to my wife’s pussy as she pulls her knees back to open herself to him. Watching as he settles his weight down onto her, seeing her hands embracing him. Then seeing him push forward, the tip of his cock finding my wife’s pussy lips, both of their bodies now lined up to join. Watching as their hips shift slightly, his pushing down as her legs rise into the air. Then I hear my wife of make a little cry and moan and even though part of my mind rebels at the thought, I know that the sounds she’s making means that the head of his cock has entered her,I watch with great anticipation as he shoves the full length of his cock fully into her deepest parts.
Their bodies begin to move in rhythm, and I admire the curve of my wife’s smooth thighs against his hips. I shift around to the side of the bed to watch them kiss, her eyes closed, her tongue searching for his, and then back to look closely between their legs to see the shaft of his cock spreading her pussy lips, seeing his balls swinging as he pulls his cock partway out and then shoves it all the way in. With each thrust the clenching of his ass as he buries his stiff cock in her wonderful pussy. I know exactly what he’s feeling as my wife’s pussy grips his penis…I know the pleasure his throbbing cock is giving her moist pussy, I know as she reaches her orgasm by the way she curls her toes and moans slightly.
As he rolls off of her I rush to fill her freshly fucked pussy with my throbbing cock. I slide in with ease as her warm cunt if full of his cum and her fluids. This is the pleasure I get from having my wife share her wonderful cunt with another man. I feel no jealousy as our love is very strong, we both receive immense pleasure from another man shoving his cock into her juicy pussy. I love watching her in the throes of passion as I am very voyeuristic, and the feel of her freshly fucked pussy is beyond describing.I enjoy a pussy full of love wine. The combination of all our sex fluids combined is simply out of this world.
There are just no words that can describe the feelings that run through my body when watching another man doing many wonderful things to my wife’s body to take her to higher and higher levels of pleasure. My body trembles with wave after wave of sexual pleasure that is almost as intense as a full blown ejaculation orgasm. At times I would barely be able to stand. My sexual arousal is to the very highest level, every little sound she makes in her sexual pleasure,every little move she makes to impale that hard throbbing cock deeper into her moist warm cunt, every thrust he makes, all these things and many more bring so much more pleasure to me than just my cock filling her wonderful pussy.
In sharing my wife with other men, my wife and I can both be taken to sexual heights we can never achieve on our own. Having the right partner to join us is of prime importance. One who is sensitive to her needs foremost, than mine and his. We have had some one night stands and some that were stopped before going very far due to his attitude or actions. Yes she fucks other men, NO she is not a gutter slut. She shares her body to please me, if I asked her to stop having sex with other men, she would stop in a heartbeat.
Thanks for sharing! This is a great description and I LOVE the end where you make it clear that this is a choosy thing, not just random fucking and that you’re doing this together! Awesome stuff.
Karen has been with 3 others since we married 8 years ago. Then we met Alex and he has been her lover for 2 years. She has him with me and solo. I have wanted her to have more guys together with us but she thinks thats slutty. I just spent 2 weeks in London with work and Alex convinced her to let his friend fuck her with him. She called and told me. I wanked myself until I got home. Alex’s friend was only visiting but he is sure he will call again.
Thanks for sharing! I guess this works for you but it feels like she’s more connected to Alex now. She convinced her to be with more guys together where you didn’t. Hey, if it works for you awesome. I just would want my wife and I to be the center deciding all this stuff.
I bought the dildo for my wife. We've used it three times now. Today I told her I love her using it and asked if she liked it. She said "yes" but asked why I liked it she said she'd think I would want to have all the fun. We talked and I told her that wanted her to have more than I could give her and that I had a fantasy of doing a 3sum with her and another guy. She was quiet but we made out and had sex without using the dildo. I wanted to use it but she said not this time. Not sure...
Oh boy. Well, I have a feeling you might have gone a bit faster than she was ready. Maybe it’s great to rip the bandaid off quickly. But perhaps going slow might have made that last admission easier to handle.
Simply telling her that you like seeing her getting more than you can give or just seeing it slide in and out of her is a turn on might have been a first step.
Then back off using it so much. Just use it every now and then. Then after a while you could go to that final admission. And at that point she might suspect as much or at least be more comfortable hearing it since she’s already heard why you like the dildo.
But hey, you said what was on your mind and that’s a good thing. Now you just have to let her figure out how she feels about it. Make sure to hit on romance now. Get her flowers. Do some chores spontaneously around the house.
My wife fucked several guys with me in the past. But recently all she wants is me. But I KNOW from the photos that she really enjoyed the attention. She is bet hot and had a very active sex life with many guys in her past. Recently our personal trainer has been turning her on. I would love to see her fucked by him. I have her to the point of wearing super hot workout clothes and showing off a bit for him. How do I get this to the finish line. I feel like she wants it.
Thanks for sharing! If I knew how to get this to the finish line I’d have jerk off material for the rest of my life after seeing her with another guy. So I don’t have all the answers but if your wife has done it in the past I think you have a better chance.
Communication is the key. Maybe relive some of those old times when she fucked other guys. Tell her how much it turns you on. Tell her how gorgeous she is. Bring her flowers. Make her feel good about herself and about what she’s done in the past and maybe she does it again?