To the guy being humiliated: your wife is wrong that your desire to see her with other men means you want to be put down. The humiliation fetish is its own thing and not something that every person into this may want. Google around and you'll find plenty of hotwifers who want nothing to do with being disrespected. Stand your ground! If she loves you she should respect your boundaries, and if you love her you should communicate them. Both of you should be happy, not just one. Good luck!
Was married and tried everything to get my wife to fuck others. She was very naive and would have nothing of it. We broke up and divorced, not because of that but went our ways. 2 years ago we met again, got on and fucked again. Found out she has been really playing around. I have another relationship and there is no going back. Thing is she includes me and I can fuck her almost whenever I want. Have has threesomes. She is no longer my wife but it’s weird and good.
Weird and good is just fine. Sounds like she needed to be outside of marriage to fully explore her sexuality. It’s a shame more women don’t feel safer exploring within their marriage instead of out of it.
The recent posts show how badly this can go. The husband can't be there and the husband is purposefully humiliated by his wife. How the husbands put up with this I don't know. But, this is what they desired ( sharing ) and they get part of the blame. Guys, you have to be very sure what you want and even more you have to know your wife. Even more than you know yourself.
Agreed. This isn’t something to just do because you get the idea. You really have to think about it, talk about it and know yourself and your wife.
I feel that I have some blame as well. I talked her into trying other men as I wanted her to experience others and I wanted to see her get pleasure. She really gets into it and likes it so much I could not stop her. I love here too much. She is convinced I like as she says why would any man have his wife sleep with other men if they didn't want to be put down. I think too she likes to be made to do stuff by the guys. I ask her but could never make her do it if she doesn't want too. No win.
You might have talked her into trying other men but that doesn’t mean you asked for all of this. It’s an equal relationship and life is too short to not be happy.
I talked her into having other men. Then at one meet she and the guy humiliated me. They both got off on it and now that's what happens. I don't what to be clucked but my wife says I secretly do. She lets them do anything even anal because they wear condoms. I wont, never have, never will. I watch but never get to fuck her now when they are still there. When we are alone we have normal good times. She's very keen to kept going and wants more than one at a time but I am not sure I can cope.
Well that sounds like an abusive relationship. If you’re not happy with what’s going on then you have to talk about it with her and get on the same page.
This is the wife and I finally gave in to my husbands fantasy. I had a few glasses of wine to ease my nerves and agreed to do it, if my husband could find me someone very quickly before I changed my mind. WOW!!! The guy had stamina, very nice large package he was 31 and I'm 44. He rocked my world!!!!!! And I am without a doubt wanting to do it again and again. My hubby created a monster!!! I loved it, and recommend you woman at least try it once, for your man ;)
Thanks for sharing the wife’s POV! So you finally relented and did it more for him than for you but wound up loving it!? That’s so amazing to hear.
No problems in the marriage after? I’d love to hear more either publicly or privately. I need all the female advice I can get!
Was not hard to get my wife to have another man. She was all for it after I assured her it was what I really wanted. We found a guy about our age that she liked. He came to our house. After drinks they kissed and cuddled. It became strained. He couldn’t go on with me there. She wanted it and begged me to leave. I did, they fucked. She saw him 3 more times at home, same result. Now she just goes to his place. She really enjoys it but I would love to be part of it. She is willing to others.
Thanks for sharing. I don’t know, if you want to be part of it, I think you should. This is a thing for you and her together, right?
How do you feel about Dogging as a way into the life style. My GF says she would like to be watched & maybe proceed from there with a stranger. She's dead against a swingers club as she dosnt want me getting off on other women. Like you I'm not into other women, I just want to use her full potential in a MFM threesome .
To me dogging is too dangerous. You just don’t know who is going to be there, if they’re safe and what they might do.
Safety has to come first in my book and in the end I figure if we did anything beyond grinding, groping, fingering, stroking, then I’d need to know a bit more about the dude.
My wife has told me of all her past sexual experances & loves how hard it makes me. We often fuck with the use of a dildo for the threesome experiance but have not yet experienced the real thing yet. My hot wife is well up for it but worries that it could change things between us. One of my mates did it with his GF and struggled with the post come -come down. Had this affected you & if do how do you deal with it. I'm well up for sharing & so is my filthy bitch of a horny wife. :0P
Well it’s good that you’re thinking about the consequences of doing it. I think there are a lot of people who don’t think about it enough and that can lead to problems.
And things could change between you. I mean, they will to some extent since you’ll have experienced something very sexual. I think the thing for me is to make it something you do together. Communicating a lot beforehand is huge I think but there’s still a chance that she or you could feel different after. She might feel guilty or the opposite, liberated and want more. You might feel strange after hearing your wife make different noises with him than with you. The green eyed monster or jealousy might rear its head.
If we’d done anything sooner I think that might have happened to me/us. But as I matured I got a better perspective and our relationship, our intimacy has grown. I just know we’re so rock solid that nothing could shake it.
I too used to struggle with that post-cum let down. I’d jerk off to the fantasy and right after would think ‘why the fuck do I want this?’ but … 20 minutes later I’d be hard again thinking about it. Over time I haven’t had that let down nearly as much or at all. I don’t know why but I think part of it is just REALLY embracing that it’s okay to want and get off on this.
When you feel secure in your own desires and your marriage a lot of things get a lot more fun.
My wife is bisexual and I would consider her a hotwife because we swing. I am encouraging her to find a woman she can meet by herself. I not comfortable with her meeting another man alone but it does not bother me when she is with someone while we are together. It's not a lack of trust of her. Men are just idiots in general and if one thinks he can get over on you he will try. Why put my wife in that position. When it's in front of me he knows I am in charge. Thoughts?
I think there’s a lot of truth to that. Many guys are idiots and may try to take advantage of things if you weren’t there. In general, I think being there makes it clear that this is a shared experience. I mean, I’ve never done it so I don’t really know but I certainly think being there would keep things on the right wavelength.
Yes she has a few regulars that this could work with, but worried they might not keep their mouth shut. Definitely needs some more thought. Sometimes the desire gets too much and clouds good judgement, for me at least!
I know the feeling! First things first, do the role play like I suggested and see how that goes and where it might lead.
Re: the guy who's wife is a masseuse. I would be very hesitant if I were her to offer a happy ending to anyone, what if they are a cop? Maybe the way to go about it would be of the guy is a regular and she knows he's not a cop.
Great suggestion, thanks! I'll suggest your idea! I don't want to get ahead of myself but I'm very hopeful this is a goer. I mean she sees other men's erect cocks at least 3 or 4 times a week and will tell me which ones were hot, if they are cute, whether they had a big one etc. so I've got to be in a good position! I think she is more worried about the legal side of it though. I'll keep you posted.
Great! Have fun with it and don’t break character until she gets home.
Very hot that she comments on the size and hotness of the guys and their cocks.
Totally get the legal side stuff. That is a bit scary. Keep me posted!
I too have this fantasy but wife not keen so far. However she is a professional masseuse and will tell me about the guys who get boners and ask for happy endings, drives me nuts, but she is yet to give one. I've told her I'd be fine with it and a good way to earn extra $$. She is currently thinking about it! I'm hoping that if she does start doing this it'll loosen her up for proper hot wife activity that I can witness myself!
Wow. That’s a great opportunity and it’s cool that she’s thinking about it. Perhaps you could role play it the first time, go in for a massage with her pretending you didn’t know each other, get a hard on and ask for a happy ending.
So she’d get to sort of experience what it would be like but do it with you. That might help her to feel less strange about doing it again with someone else.
Called her a slut. Yes we have talked about it, I have begged. She believes I would change after it happened as the boyfriend did years ago. I think he had an attack of the guilt’s after the threesome. She is incredibly sexual in the way she moves and responds. We have done about everything 2 people can do to each other with no boundaries, she will do it all. I think she probably got right into it and he could not take the pleasure the other man gave her and felt inadequate. I keep trying.
I’m glad you were able to share you desires with her and that you’ve been able to explore so much with her.
A shame that guy got the guilts. I think that’s what my wife is concerned about - or was - that I’d change my mind after seeing it for real. I’m pretty sure she doesn’t think that after dance night now tho.
Keep trying and go slow and show her that her flirting doesn’t bother you - but turns you on. Small baby steps!
Wife has a fuck buddy. Don’t worry, I play away too. I was out of town for 3 days business. I flew in, went straight to restaurant for friends birthday. Met wife there, she looked stunning wearing very short dress. Was sitting at the table, she said I had something on my face. She touched my face and slipped her finger in my mouth. I could taste cunt and his cum, I know the taste. She had just fucked him and come straight to dinner. A long night. We fucked big when we got home. She's hot.
Glad you and the wife have found an arrangement that works. It’s not the one I’d want since I don’t want other women and would prefer to be there to see my wife experience another guy.
But it’s all about what works for each couple and it sounds like you’ve got it going on :)
Can’t complain as wife loves sex and I get heaps. But I have wanted her to have others as well. Definite NO. Its because she got hurt when she was with a long term previous boyfriend. He wanted same and she was up for it and more. They did it once with another guy and then the boyfriend called her a slut. They actually broke up over it. Lucky for me as she is mine but the bastard fucked up the threesome experience for me with her.
Oh man. Yeah, you’re not going to convince her to try it again after such a lousy experience. That’s a shame too since she was actually up for doing it! What a fuckhead that guy was to do that to her. Glad she has you.
Have you at least expressed the fantasy to her or do you not even want to brooch the subject?
Wouldn't it be hot to have your wife tell you about one of her lovers as she stroked you? How long would you last? I think women need to know how this effects us men interested in this lifestyle. Instead of making us jealous it drives us wild with desire. Just like when you saw the guy kissing her and feeling her up. Instead of getting mad you wanted her even more.
Yes. That would be VERY hot if she stroked me as she told me about one of her past lovers. I wouldn’t last very long at all tho I tend not to last that long anyway but I’d cum in a very short time.
She’s done some stuff like that from time to time but more about role playing and telling a story. She knows how hard it gets me and how fast I cum when that’s the theme. And still knows how much I masturbate to ‘dance night’ memories.
Your wife telling you about a past boyfriend who could eat her good made me remember one of mine. He was unbelievable. He was so good I let him do my friend. Sadly he was not that good with what he did with his cock though. I have tried to coach my husband over the years in the oral area. Sadly he is good but he has never got to the level of mad Mike. But he keeps trying. Jess
Thanks for sharing Jess! It’s great to get a woman’s point of view here on the blog. I love that there was a guy who ate your pussy better than hubby. Funny how some guys can excel in different ways. Variety is the spice of life eh? And trying is the best part I think ;)
I read the "Pornography, sperm competition, and behavioural ecology" article and found it quite fascinating. I've always wondered what the biological drivers are behind this very common fantasy and this offers a plauasble explanation. Whether true or not I don't know. Are there other theories? I'll definitely be getting my wife to read it as I think it might help allay some of her fears, which are that this is an elaborate scheme so I can sleep with other women.
It’s interesting how many wives think this is a trap. That this is some way to allow the husband to fuck other women. Honestly, it’s the farthest thing from my mind. All my fantasies and lust revolve around my wife.
If the sperm competition helps allay that fear, great. Other theories, I think there’s a lot of voyeurism involved, to see your wife in a new and different way, to share new experiences. I don’t know. I’ve analyzed it to death and now I just don’t care why I just accept that it is.
It's pretty hot to hear about your wife and her sexual past especially the 2 guys in one day.I would say that if you can get her past her "good girls don't do this" stage you will be one happy camper. I gave my wife a new dildo the other day and as I was stroking it in and out of her I commented how much it looked like a real cock going into her pussy. I may never get her with another guy but I intend to screw her silly with her new toy.
Yeah, I’m a lucky guy for sure. She’s very sexual and it’s just getting her to feel okay about being with other men while we’re married that’s the real hurdle. It’s a big one tho. She likes where we are, loves our sex and doesn’t really ‘need’ other men. I just want her to get to a point where she may want to indulge just that once.
And I’m with you on the dildo! If all I ever get to do is to role play it all with a dildo (or two) then it will still be amazing :)
Awhile back ago I admitted to my wife that I have a fantasy about sharing her with another man, either through a threesome or simply watching her. At first she was shocked and then grew to accept it. We would talk about it occasionally, but she had always said it would never happen. I try to not talk about it often, maybe once a week if that, as a way to not ruin or force the subject on her. I’ve always figured id let it settle in her mind and when she’s ready she can talk about it if she likes. My work keeps me out of town for most of the month but we do have conversations and play around via texting and talking over the phone. This past week she has seemed not herself and I finally got her to open up and she admitted that the threesome/sharing thing had been bothering her. She thinks it means that I don’t think of her the same and that it’s a way for me to get a chance to try something with another woman as well as saying that I should never want to share her. I’ve assured her over and over that I don’t want any other women, that this is only because I want to see her sexually pleasured in ways I have not and for her and us to experience something new. So my question to you and your followers is, what advice do you have for me to help her and I past this? How did you explain your fantasy and wants to your wives? What can I do to safely keep this going with out potentially ruining what foundations we’ve got going on this subject? Thanks in advance for your help and might I add best of luck on your journey, I’ve enjoyed this site and make an effort to check everyday with hopes that you will soon have the experience we’ve all been wanting.
This sounds a lot like my wife when I first told her. Time is the first thing you need. Time for her to come to grips with it. I’d say making those romantic gestures and to make sure that it’s not all about this fantasy is important. You need to show her that your love for her has not diminished because of this - may have actually increased tho that takes time for a woman to undertand.
I think it’s just telling her that she’s you’re one and only and that this isn’t some scheme so you can fuck other women is a start. The sharing thing - that’s tough - something my wife still has trouble with - if he loves me so much why would he want to share me. Just be honest with your feelings she might not understand them but she’ll come to know them to be honest and that could be more important.
Oh, and you could show her blogs like this to show her it’s not so strange!
I love hearing about your quest. My wife and I have a solid and intense sex life. Often I tell stories during our sessions and your blog inspired me to push the limit. Last night's story had us at a bar, her flirting with a guy next to us, eventually letting his hand under her dress to bring her to orgasm as I stood behind her kissing-biting her neck. Story drove her WILD leading to one of our more intense sessions. Later on she says that I never finished the story. To be continued . . .
Wow! That’s really really hot. Even better that she says that you never finished the story. Keep me posted please and thanks for sharing!
Wouldn't it be nice if your wife would forget about your feelings and honestly tell you who was her best lover and why. You could use this information to enhance your sex life.
I would tho I think, not to brag, that I’d still be the top of that list. We’ve been together so long and I’ve gotten extremely good at getting her off. She definitely keeps track of her best Os and I know the ones I’ve given her are at the top of the list.
She did tell me about one guy who was really good at eating her out. That was very hot to hear.
I like you had tried to have my wife have sex with other men. She would play along in bed with me but in reality she never wanted to take the step. It’s not that she was a prude or such like. She had had an active sex life before she met me. It’s just that she felt once married then I was the only one who could have her. That is very hard to argue.
Then one night when a male friend was in town we went out and the 3 of us went clubbing and ended up very drunk. She danced with both of us. Dirty dancing would be an understatement. We headed home in a taxi and she was all over us and half undressed as well. Even in my drunk state in the cab I knew that Mitch our friend was fingering her. She was squirming all over the seat. We arrived home and once inside we continued and soon lost all our clothes.
We were all over each other. I remember she was literally panting as she was so excited. We both fingered her which she loves. Then Mitch went down on her and licked her. She had orgasm after orgasm. I thought the next step would be that he would fuck her and I was all for it. But when he went to pull himself up on top of her she stopped him. Instead she took hold of his cock and worked it with both hands.
She spat on her fingers for lubrication and soon had him to the point of no return. He came and shot all over her. She then turned to me and did the same until I came.
After that we went to bed and when we woke in the morning we were a bit seedy from all the alcohol we had consumed.
Over a late breakfast she asked Mitch if he remembered the previous night. He was a little embarrassed to say the least. She put him at ease when she said that she was not mad at him for trying to fuck her. She said she was married to me and only me was to have her but she saw nothing wrong with the fingering, licking and wanking. I was surprised but very happy with her admission.
That afternoon when we felt better we did it all again. She did not mind being naked in front of Mitch and I enjoy watching him caress and manipulate her body as she came over and over.
So that is what we have continued to do. When the mood takes us we find a male and invite him to enjoy himself with us. She lets them have access to her body but draws the line at fucking. She will not suck their cock either. Now to date, we have never had any man we invited to join us reject the option.
I firmly believe she will never submit to full fucking and I quite like that fact. But I still get off seeing what she does and the effect she has on these guys.
Also we don’t have to consider condoms or contraception as I have had the snip.
Incidentally Mitch never hesitates to line up as often as he can when he come up and visits us.
Thanks for sharing! Very interesting the line she’s drawn. I do wonder if she’ll ever change her mind. Even if she doesn’t that’s tremendously hot as it is.
Anyone with this fantasy should read this article. It provides an explanation into why we have this urge and could therefore help explain it to our wives/girlfriends so they don't think we're freaks, and that this is a far more common desire than people realise. Particularly telling is that MMF porn is far more prevalent than FFM porn, despite the fact the supposed number one male fantasy is to have sex with two women! Just google "Pornography, sperm competition, and behavioural ecology"
I know the article. I’m not sure it’s the real reason for everyone but if it helps people feel better about it (both the husband or the wife) then more more to you!
I been following your blog for about 6 months. You get a lot of good quality photos from your viewers but recently I have noticed a lot of good real stories being posted. Example was from a guy the other day that allowed his wife to help their business through a financial crisis. These stories are fantastic. So I thought I would share mine. My wife is a beautiful woman of 5 ft 3 inches and presently is 35 y/o. Great set of tits with huge nipples. What she does to a pair of jeans is amazing. We have been married for 13 years and I never tire of looking at her it’s almost to a worship level. I have had the PLEASURE to watch and film her have sex with 2 men during our 13 years. First was 3 years after we married he was a little bigger than me by about an inch being about 8 inches. He was proportionally larger in girth as well. I loved it and was dying for more. But she always responded no and that it should remain just a onetime experience After suffering for about 5 years I sat down and spilled my feelings and desires out to her. Telling her I just had to see her again. She agreed and said it would be the last time. I used some faceless photos on AFF and was bombarded by requests. I opened the field way up as I was willing to fly about anywhere to make it a great adventure. Finally I culled out the list and sat and showed her 10 of the applicants. They all had more than 9”, I made sure of that and they were from an array of ethnic choices. After considering all she chose a white guy that was living in DC. As my request asked for only men 9“and longer I knew he was hung. But after I started to arrange things he finally told me he had 11”! I was a bit set back and to be honest nervous about this. I sat down with her to tell her thinking it would be fair to let her know so she could back out if she wanted. She had been with 4 men previously with the largest one 8” that we had done together. Now she was confronted with 3”more over an already big dick! She thought for a moment and said “yes keep him “. She had originally picked him from face pictures as she isn’t turned on by a lot of cock pictures. I can’t explain how much I appreciated her spirit in this decision. So we flew to DC in 2007 from Washington State where we were then living. He showed up on time the next day at our hotel room about 1pm. I started filming with a HD video camera. They had sex twice in front of my eyes. He was really good with her. He proceeded very patiently, gently and used a lot of lube. She chose to be on top to be in more control. Imagine the view I had of that precious ass pumping on that erection! During the second sex he took her from behind. I never felt a tinge of jealousy. I just thought about what a beautiful sight I was seeing. I never looked at what she did as wrong or dirty. I was pleased to be a part of an experience in her life the she might not otherwise had. I have revisited this event so many times in watching the 30 minute movie and am always amazed how hot she looked that day. I can’t share a picture and not because I don’t want to but because I know it would be wrong without her consent. And I know she would say no. Since then and it’s been about 6 years I have tried several times to get her to do it again but always is a firm no. My desires are as strong as ever. Every time I see her look sexy and hot the idea of watching her get fucked hard floods into my core. When I have sex with her I don’t think about it. It is pleasure enough just to be with her and feel her all around me. Within the last few months my desires have swelled again but I know the answer before I ask so I don’t. But to try to get some level of satisfaction I decided to ask her to open up our marriage and allow only her to have sexually freedom. I do this for two reasons. One because I really don’t have any interest outside of her, and two because I don’t want her to think it is my end game because it isn’t. Her response has been hard to read. She didn’t say yes and she didn’t say no. She did say something like “well maybe someday I will be at a bar and I will find someone and have sex with them and come home to tell you about it. So far and it’s been about 4 months, nothing. She is flying home to visit her family in January for 3 weeks. I am hoping something happens then! This for sure is not my #1 fantasy but just to know someone is fucking her and giving her something new and fresh might get me through these strong desires I have. I love her and as hot as she looks she deserves the freedom. My feeling go out to you guys that are starving was well.
Thanks for sharing! Sounds like two very very hot experiences. I think it’s sort of great that it’s not a normal event for you, though maybe once a year would be better :) She sounds like a great woman and hopefully she’ll indulge you again soon.