What's this about texting when she's out wife the girls? Does she get hit on when out with her friends and what are the boundaries? If she came home and said oops I kissed and felt up another guy how would you react?
Once in a while when she goes out - it’s not often tho - she will text me. She’s attractive and gets hit on but she rebuffs it. If she came home and said that I’d be very horny!
FYI - i also was adamant about being present but let me just tell you - i let her go meet a guy for what was supposed to be a little pre-session (a BJ) to whet his beak until the main session a few nights later. so she got all business slutty dressed up and split to her office which is just hers and they met and it was hella hot!! they stuck to the bj but at the end they were so hot they had sex. i only let her go alone on the condition that she learn and use the video camera which she did.
Thanks for sharing! That’s pretty hot. I bet that video is something you watch again and again :)
The being there versus not is an interesting dynamic. I am nearly certain I’d want to be there but I will say that the times we text when she’s out with the girls is a huge turn on too.
Like I said, I want to be there but I used to think I would not be able to handle kissing but then that turned me on when she did it on dance night. So I leave the door open at this point. The biggest reason for me to be there in some ways is to ensure she’s safe and that she doesn’t completely lose herself and do something dangerous. And I think she could if she just let herself cross that line completely.
My lady took some convincing but did it for me. But now loves it and can’t get enough of different guys it seems. I am no cuck but my wife really likes to head this way. She has had a couple of away ones but likes me there. Thats when she will try take control and devote a lot of time to the other guy. She likes to see me squirm but then makes it up to me. Its a case I think of women using her power to control the situation.
Thanks for sharing. I’d like to think that for many who finally do cross the line, they figure out that this is a pretty great situation. It sounds like she knows exactly the buttons to push that gets you off and there’s no doubt that many women probably enjoy the sense of control they have.
My wife and I divorced 5 years ago. We have both remarried new partners. My new wife was a friend of my first wife. We all get on well. About 6 months ago we swapped partners and it went well. For me it was fantastic to slip into my first wife after about 4 years absence. Sex was never the problem with the first marriage and I think if we had swapped or shared with others then we would still be together. No complaining though, my new wife is super hot as well.
Thanks for sharing. That’s an interesting situation. Not sure I’d want all the old connections like that hanging around as the new husband. Must have been hot to be with her again though.
You need to go out more often so there is a greater chance of having a successful night. My wife and I have a date night once a month without fail, sometimes twice if we get the chance. Sounds like you've got some time planned now but why not make it a regular thing?
You are 100% correct! And I’m hoping that I can make it a more regular thing. Working on it. For now I’m stoked that there are two weekends and four nights in the next month where we have a potential opportunity to go out.
Seeing as how bad the last club we went to was I’m hoping to get her back to the club where ‘it’ happened again.
On Monday nights I pick up my wife from her lovers hotel. They have dinner and drinks so she can’t drive and would have to stay there all night. He’s her old boss where she worked before and has been doing her for years. He stays in town one night a week. I know him but don’t go in. She is always very happy when she gets in the car and ready for more then but mostly I make her wait until we are home. I don’t see a problem with it, she seems to need it and I never miss out.
Thanks for sharing! I’m continually amazed at how many others do this sort of thing and the different ways they take place. I can’t imagine doing this weekly but that’s me and not you and your wife. That’s the awesome thing every couple can find the stuff that gets THEM off. Those who do I think wind up being very happy. Those who stay with what others tell them should get them off probably not happy.
Having wrote "the waiting is tough", just want you to know I hope you get what you want too. The point I was trying to make is sometimes no matter how much we "wish" and plan out steps, she will never do it. Or my case after twice refuse more. To another point I was trying to make is once you see your wife with another and you realize that you do indeed like it you soon know that once or twice is not enough. Compatibility becomes the key. Frustrated I now look for "something" to hang my hat on.
Totally get that! I know that the time that my wife went just a little bit into the reality it wasn’t planned. And that since any plans haven’t really worked out. It’s just not a paint by numbers thing :(
Interesting that once the fantasy is fulfilled that it doesn’t go away but only becomes stronger. I’ve given that a lot of thought actually and figured it would be like that. I know just what i’ve seen thus far makes me crave more so I totally get where you’re coming from.
I’m sorry you’re currently stuck in neutral but like you say, it’s not plannable and waiting is tough but it might just happen when you least expect it.
If you have a strong relationship, don't be afraid to let her go alone. She'll come back to you telling all about it. That will make your bond even stronger.
I wouldn’t encourage that but I think if she was out with friends and made out with a guy I would probably be turned on. But to me it’s all about a shared experience so I’m not sure I could handle not being there.
I recommend you stick to your guns on you being present. She knows your fantasy as a MFM or at least you as an observer. It may send confusing messages if you change now. From where I sit you have an amazingly good thing with the role play games. For most of us we wont even have that. You have too much to lose to risk letting even encouraging her to fuck without you. Just my uneducated opinion FWIW. I hope you get what you want and the aftermath is what you want too.
Oh totally! I’m not going to encourage anything else and I think she’d want me there in the end anyway. But I did find it interesting that she was sort of in her own world on dance night in a lot of ways.
And the one time she did have phone sex with a guy a long time ago she wanted me to not be there but instead listen behind the door. Different circumstances then though and we’re a lot closer and in touch with each other now.
So I’m still going with the role play which is amazing and just booked a few weekends where we can go out and play so hopefully something interesting outside of role play might happen by the end of the summer.
Thanks for looking out though. I really do appreciate it!
Why restrict either a man or woman to one partner. If the relationship is strong it is natural that you both want the other to enjoy life and different experiences. We had done that for years. If my wife or me sees someone either wants to have then do it. We had one now friend who has been fucking my wife for 10 years. We probably on see him 3 times a year. But when we do its usually a couple of days and its full on. He knows what he is going to get, she knows and I know and we all enjoy it.
Thanks for sharing! I think that’s a easier said than done for most couples. Jealously is a difficult beast for most and if you’re insecure which is a lot of people then you just have a hard time with this idea.
I’m at a point where I know my wife and I are solid. Nothing could break us and I’m not worried about some guy ‘stealing’ her from me. So I get it. But I don’t think everyone does.
We both love this. We now have a friend Rick, he owns a stretch limo service. We met when we hired him once. Some nights he picks us up. She wears a light coat and heels. I drive and he’s in the back. He licks her, she sucks him and then he fucks her. I watch in the mirror and on the camera. Then we swap and he drives. I clean her up and fuck her, then home. She walks from the car inside only wearing heels. He usually leaves then. We see him often for more but love the car ride.
Thanks for sharing! That sounds like an excellent little arrangement. Very very hot. You’re all lucky to have found eachother.
Could you go into a little more detail about your conversation with your wife about her seeing someone alone? Thanks!
No real conversation just that she enjoyed being on her own with these guys on dance night. So in some ways she enjoyed being solo. But when we roleplay it’s always me right there with her so I don’t know what might happen if we were to move more from fantasy to reality.
About “The waiting is tough”. Getting her to have sex with someone else alone is a natural and common progression. It went that way for us. I thought watching Carla with another man would be the ultimate but then my wants changed and she was also ok to move up a gear. She now has had a threesome with 2 guys and not me. I was really charged waiting for her return and what she told me. Our sex after was magic. She comes home after that and wants me more, thats my Carla.
Thanks for sharing! I think it all depends on the couple but if it works for you then it doesn’t matter if it does or doesn’t for another couple. I will say that there does seem to be a continuing escalation and intensity in this fantasy and even the role play.
No one wants to see their wife enjoy a man in front of their eyes any more than I do. To put it lightly, not a day ever passes without thinking about it several times. My wife allowed me this privilege 2 times and all I can say is that it’s not over rated. It’s one thing to watch porn and quite another thing to see watch the woman that you idolize, cherish and love fuck another man. I have read countless articles from sperm wars to “having homosexual tendencies”.
I know my desires are deep rooted and best intended to my wife and I have no desires for men sexually. To say that this subject is complicated is an understatement. I know what like minded men go through on this quest and also understand that the things that enter their minds do so with no fault to them. I believe that most men have these desires but the individuals that don’t give in to societies guidelines are more apt to fail to keep these feelings suppressed. This is what makes it so complicated.
Women don’t generally have these desires and are conditioned to attempt monogamy and really have to wrestle with the unorthodox thinking that their man want to see them with another. My wife was in her twenties when she did this. Being young I think she did it 80% for me and 20% for her out of curiosity. They were both hung, I made sure of that, with the last one being in the monster class 10 1/2 inches. Due to a great deal of patience on the behalf of the man she took all but about an inch. I am wired right for this as I never had a ping of jealousy and only admired the sexual creature I had married.
Now a mother, half way through her thirties and still hot as hell, she is a really tough sell on this. I have resorted to encouraging her to have sex without me present. I did this about a year ago and to this she did not say no as she did countless times to letting me watch her again. It’s been a year and she has not yet taking me up on my offer.
I encourage her to dress provocative when she leaves the house and she enjoys that. I encourage her to go out for drinks with both men and women by herself and while she enjoys the sense of freedom so far hasn’t exercised it. She works where she is the only woman and I am sure that she gets plenty of attention but she is home every night like clockwork.
I know from reading this blog for over a year that you will say this is not for you and that this is something you must do together and I of course wish very much I could have it this way. However no is no and I am sure if she comes home late some night and lays next to me freshly fucked with a spark in her eye I will get a major woody and most likely some amazing sex. And if I am lucky I will show her my commitment to her to the level that she will want to give me the opportunity to witness the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life again. In the mean time she gets to enjoy her sexuality if she so chooses.
To those that remain frustrated remember that it could be worse, she could cheat.
Thank you SO much for sharing this! Wonderful description of the desire and the conflict women have in realizing this fantasy. And while I do want to be there to see my wife I might, like you, take what I could get if my wife showed interest in playing alone. Not sure but it’s a powerful think and I do idolize and cherish my wife and would want to support her if she wanted that. Don’t think that is her thing but never say never, right?
I hope something more happens for you and thank you for sharing your insight and experience. I think it’ll help a lot of readers.
Big mistake. It took a long time to convince her and finally with plenty of drinks we took a young to our hotel room. It was good and so was he. He fucked her good, 3 times to my 2. Next day she was never going to do it again. Once was enough. She said I had had my thrills. But by that night she wanted to find him again. This time I took photos on the phone. Showed her next day and she exploded. Said I made her cheap. I deleted them. That was 18 months ago. Now trying to convince her again.
Thanks for sharing and sorry to hear. That’s the thing though I think it can be very difficult for women. They have husbands who are telling them it’s okay to do this to give in to temptation even though they feel like they shouldn’t. Then when they do you have to be SUPER careful. It’s not about the sexual enjoyment afterwards it’s how they FEEL about it. That’s why every time we explore, even in role play, I follow-up and tell her how much I love her and I get more romantic than erotic. Seems to be working but everyone is different.
At least you’ve got the memories and there’s no real problems with the marriage. So that’s still pretty awesome.
Recently while out with my wife we met an old girlfriend. She was pretty wild then. I used to take her out in my van with my friend. We would both fuck her and then she would fuck herself on the manual shifter while we recovered and did her again. My wife knew about this. She and my wife got on well and talked about me, other guys and other things they had done years ago. She is married with kids just like us now. Don’t know if anymore will happen but hoping.
Thanks for sharing! I think finding another woman who has done this, though not while married I assume is a good thing. It shows that women can do those sorts of things and still be wives and mothers. Maybe they’ll egg each other on and you’ll find her wanting to explore more. Or at least I hope so for your sake. Even if not, pretty hot to have that sexual tension heightened.
I want to watch my wife have sex with another man and him to cum inside of her. My wife knows this I say it to her sometimes while having sex she ok with me saying this, am I weird or is it wrong to think like this I cant help how I feel
Hey, whatever turns you on turns you on (within reason ya’know). And this is TOTALLY within reason. No one gets hurt. You get off on the idea of watching your wife fuck another guy and to have him cum inside her. You probably want to see the cum oozing out of her pussy and may want to slide in for sloppy seconds. I’m right there with you so I don’t think it’s weird or wrong it just is what gets you hard.
Met my wife while casually fucking her sister. She married after us but never lasted. She wanted children but missed out. My wife suggested that I father one for her. Friends knew that I had fucked both sisters. I got bold and agreed only if my wife have a MMF with another guy. She eventually agreed. Have had 3 different guys. Now settled on one when we want him, about once a month. The sister knows nothing of this. She had her child and pregnant again. I fuck her regularly. My wife insists I do
Well, I try not to judge but this is pretty out there for me and I wouldn’t want to create an ultimatum to get my wife to try this. Seems you’ve got a unique situation.
i have a few Hot pictures of my wife i want to post . How or where should i post them,I wish i could get her to Fuck another man while i watch and then fuck her my self giving her a great multiple cream pie
Get yourself a Tumblr and post them. Or go to Imgur and upload them and share them with whoever. Lots of places.
I'm in the same boat with you. Mine comes hard when we fantasize about it but is reluctant to actually do it. I think she suspects that I'm hoping it would eventually lead to me being able to have some strange of my own in front of her. I can't honestly say that she would be wrong and that that is not my motivation. I'm just not sure.
Interesting. Maybe she senses that and that’s why she’s holding back.
I know mine got into it more when she really knew and believed that it was all about me watching her with another guy. I don’t want another woman. Not looking for that at all. Just want to see my wife experience everything she can and have amazing orgasms.
How hopeful are you that she'll finally take the plunge and become a hotwife? Or have you accepted that it will mostly just be a fantasy?
I still think the odds are long but I think there’s a slim chance that she might take the plunge and do it. I am pretty certain she’ll flirt, dance, kiss and get groped again. Whether that leads to something more I can’t tell.
I get mixed signals but lately I feel like the odds are slightly higher even though we’ve struck out going out lately. I think high single digits that she does it but that it’ll remain a big part of our fantasy role play in bed and that’s pretty fucking hot as it is.
She likes it as much as me. A friend has a large power boat for deep sea fishing. His wife will not go on it. He started taking me and my wife out. After a few trips we all got bolder and ended up nude and then fooling about. Then one day while I was driving he fucked her below. We then progressed to them fucking in front of me and then both of us taking turns with her. She loves the attention, I like what she is getting, he can’t get enough of her and the boat is a bonus.
Sounds like a lot of fun! Something about being out on a boat makes more things seem possible to me. Sort of freeing. Thanks for sharing!
My wife and I have had the luck of finding a couple great men to play with her. She had always been standoffish about it but finally agreed. She would always tell me that I was the perfect size and didn't think she could handle more. One perfect night one if our friends unleashed a monster into her and she made the most beautiful noises. She no confesses to loving big cock and asks me to find a boyfriend for her to match her needs. The search is still on but I have finally got what I wanted.
Thanks for sharing! Sounds a good deal like my wife. I think it must be amazing to be a wife and to realize you can share your sexual lust (for other men) with your husband and know that he’ll support and get off on it. Congrats and keep on searching.
I love your blog. Ive been following for a long time. Just wondering if you've ever considered having your wife write you stories about your fantasy? My girlfriend knows of my desire to share her and although she says it will never happen, she's still OK with the fact that I fantasize about it. I asked her to write me a story about me sharing her with another guy. She did and it was such a turn on. Just reading her words about pleasuring another man was so hot. Ever consider it?
That is an excellent idea! I just might try that. THANK YOU for the suggestion.
Married 30 years and the wife had her first extra cock on our honeymoon. He was a barman at the resort. She liked older guys then but now as she gets older likes the younger ones. She still looks very fuckable and we live in a college town and has no trouble getting plenty of young ones. After all why would any young guy turn down a free fuck with no strings attached. I join in sometimes, some I’m there and watch, some from another room. If they are new she does them alone first.
Wow. So it’s been part of your marriage from the start! That’s different. I don’t think I could have done that on the honeymoon. Though I was already getting off on guys watching her go topless so who knows!?
Sounds like you’re both getting exactly what you want and if you’ve been together 30 years it certainly hasn’t hurt your marriage! Congrats and thanks for sharing!
Had a disappointing Saturday night. We went clubbing, wife pulled 3 guys who were all over her and they fingered her. She was dressed really hot and lost her panties. But none would come home with me there. She had a regular guy but he was army and has moved away for at least 2 years. So have resorted to pickups but they are hit and miss. She misses the pounding of 2 sizable cocks at once. Best thing of the night was after I got out of the taxi she flashed the driver as she paid him.
Well that would have been crazy amazing for me! But I get that you’ve been used to the real thing and those close-calls can be frustrating. I think there are WAY more men who are freaked out by the idea of the husband being there than those who think it’s cool. I hope you find some luck soon.
Do you look at or watch porn with your wife? What does she like? Does she get off on, or is curious about, the whole BBC thing?
Yes. I share porn with her and we watch some porn every now and then. She likes to see penetration and seemed to really enjoy seeing one gal getting DPd the last time we watched a movie. Curious about BBC? I think so. A little and warming up to the idea of enjoying bigger and not being afraid that I’ll feel bad about it.