Have tried to get my wife to do anal. Were you the first to do your wife that way. And now who suggests it? Does she ask for it or do you just do it?
I was not the first, but the second. Her first wasn’t a good experience tho so it took some time to convince her to try again. The second time we had anal sex she had an anal orgasm. From then on it was no problem :) She asks for it sometimes, sometimes I do. She’s definitely up for it tho.
Been married 8 years and we have an open marriage for 6. We have sex with guys and gals together and also split off on our own. But about 18 months ago Mandy got stuck on one guy. We had a few threesomes over about a year but she saw him continually. He would come by and they would fuck. I still fucked her but he got in the way a lot. She liked him alone. She called him lover. Work has taken him away and she sees others again. It was hard to accept for a while.
That sounds like it was more than sex and that’s where I’d get unnerved myself. When it stops being about you and her and is more about her and him then you’re in different territory IMO.
I have always liked to tongue a woman especially my wife after fucking her. I do this to my wife after she’s had an extra cock. We do have a special guy who cums in her. My wife thinks this is a cuckold thing. I don’t believe I am. I don’t want to be humiliated or denied at all. I just love doing it. I am also happy to let her do anything she wants, with whoever she wants. I just love to see or know she is getting off.
Don’t get hung up on the labels and just enjoy what you enjoy. It sounds like you’re being safe and having a blast so keep going. Thanks for sharing!
Gentleman, you need to look at this from your wife’s perspective. You’re asking her to trust YOU beyond what she has ever trusted anyone. You’re asking her to trust that you’re secure in your manhood and relationship. That you have thought this through completely. That you aren’t going to have a come apart because she didn’t do things your way. Or you felt she enjoyed it a little too much. Or not enough, for that matter. Ask yourself if you have spent your marriage...
Great words here but I’m not sure what the last part of it means. But I think all of this is true. You’re asking your wife to trust you A LOT.
I love your blog. I have even got my wife to follow you. The questions, the answers and actual experiences are awesome. My wife used to say I was a sick sexual freak. Your blog has helped her understand that I am like others and only want her to enjoy herself. She is hot and had lots of fun before we married. She had much more than me. She's told me some of the intimate details and more since following here. I'm confident we will get there. Keep it going and good luck to you also. Happy follower
Thanks for sharing! That’s really awesome to hear too. Even if you don’t get there you’ll have more fun here on out now that you’re both a little less inhibited and can be more free and intimate with each other.
Of course it would be hot if you DID get there and if you do I expect details ;)
My wife gets really turned on with idea of fucking another man, and loves talking about it when we fuck! But when we talk about it outside the bedroom she can't get passed the idea that it's the same as cheating on me. I know it's not cheating (because I'd be there with her) but how do I reassure her? Any ideas?? Man I want to watch her!
Well, that’s the big stumbling point for many I think. To me it’s just repetition, talking about how it would be something you do together and taking baby steps that convince her that it wouldn’t produce the negative outcomes she’s probably thinking about when she uses the term ‘cheating’.
To me that’s the thing. It’s not the cheating they are so concerned about it’s the fact that they believe cheating will screw up your marriage and they care more about you and the marriage then lust. That’s a GREAT thing actually but frustrating if you want this.
So, patience, reassurance, give her love and self-confidence, get in situations where she can flirt so you can experience tame versions of the fantasy. I’m no expert. Just a husband a bit further down the road but not yet there either.
Im trying to get my wife to fuck my buddy. She gave him a handjob as they madeout and he played w/her tits. Not sure if it will go any further but im hopeful. Any tips?
Well, that’s pretty far already. Did you ask her if she liked doing those things with your buddy? Do you relive them during foreplay? Do you describe how hot it was to watch her do that? Show her how much it turned you on and ask her if it turned her on to do it and I think you’ll be closer to taking another step.
To the guy with the beastly wife - Ask your wife what happened, maybe it a hormonal thing that can be fixed or maybe she's just tired from being a mom 24/7. Maybe you can get some time with her alter ego by helping out more around the house. Good luck!
I’m sharing my wife with guys that we both liked. First we are thinking about who can join us and it’s happening after all. We both love each other so much. We are also both jealous, and we can’t accept any lies. As a man, i’m so jealous normally, we sometimes even argue about some silly things just because of that. But when it comes to threesome fantasy, i’m not jealous, it’s so sexy when i know about it.
I think honesty is important. I know my wife loves me and she is faithful to me. We are having threesome in our bed just because we both like to do it. But that doesn’t mean we are not living our life as normal(!) persons.
Last week we had threesome with a guy. I watched her and it really made me hard. It was amazing night for us. 3 days later, when she was at work, i got jealous because of silly thing which wasn’t even issue.So what i’m trying to explain is this, just because you are sharing your wife in bed with another guy, doesn’t mean you are caring about her less or you are not jealous anymore. You need to see difference.As a couple, you need to stay faithful, honest.
Thank you for sharing! I think what you’re saying here is that if you do it together and everything is out in the open then you’re okay about it. And yes, if anything I think many with this fantasy care even more (if that’s possible) about their spouse.
I watch your site and feel for you when people ask of your progress. We were very much like you. I talked and coerced my wife for a long time before she took the big step.
We used dildos like you to simulate the action of 2 cocks and she enjoyed it immensely. Now we have done the real thing we hardly ever do that.
When my wife took the big step I let her make the choice of the second male. I think that is natural. She had eventually said she may do it if the right man came along. We met a salesman at a trade show and got on well with him. We went to his hotel and played for about 5 hours. We did her twice together and then he had her solo as I looked on before we came home. We never saw him again as he was from another state.
Since then we have enjoyed different partners. We made the mistake of bringing someone home and although it all went well he knew where we lived and used to visit too often and could not see why we didn’t want him. We had to end that and that was sad as apart from his demands he was good and caring.
We also now never sleep the whole night with someone else. One night we were with a guy and had had a really good threesome. We went to sleep and I woke up to him fucking Sarah my wife, from behind. I never worried and enjoyed just lying there listening to her gasp and eventually cum. What I didn’t know until next day is that she had woken up after he had entered her. She thought he had a condom on as before. She became aware of no condom when all his cum ran out of her when he withdrew after the fuck. She said nothing until we got home. When we woke in the morning she went to the bathroom and cleaned up before we both had her one after the other. He wore a condom this time so I still suspected nothing. It was a wake up for both of us. We got tested to make sure everything was ok and it was. It was a cheap trick and we never saw him again.
We always make the extra guy wear a condom. It would be nice to let some cum in her but we don’t do it often enough with one person to trust them.
I am the only one to do her anally. She is more comfortable with that. I fit her just nicely and no partner has had a problem with it.
What we like to do is go to a hotel with a guy. We have a threesome and then she will want to clean up. I cum freely in her ass and it runs out for quite a while and makes further play messy. She encourages the guy to shower with her. I lay in bed and listen. They have fun in the shower. They often finger her and bring her off. When they get out I have a shower and then when I return to the bedroom the guy has usually started fucking her again. I love to watch them. When they have finished I may fuck her again. We will then leave and go home.
Over the last 2 years we have met a guy called Ray about 6 times. We never set out to find someone with a big cock but they are out there. Ray is huge. She took some effort to take his size. I never fuck after he has as her cunt is stretched and gapping. We go home and I have her in the morning. Everything is back to normal with no lasting effects.
Since we started this Sarah has become more liberated and outgoing. She has had some piercings and a tattoo done. The tat is just above her pussy and it is my name. She even enjoyed having the tattoo done as she had to sit exposed to the guy doing the tat. She was horny but sore when we got home so I had to fuck her doggy so as not to touch her tender area.
You will get there. Give her time and let her make the choice.
Thank you for sharing! This is such a great account of the ups and downs of it all and not being afraid to do what is necessary to stay safe, do this as a couple and on your own terms. Well done and very hot.
How do I get my conservative, historically horny wife back into the game? She thinks because we have kids, we must act accordingly. I married a sexy beast! Where did she go???
Yeah. That’s a tough one. I think women have it so much tougher. How can you be a loving more, faithful wife and horny slut all at the same time? It’s a lot to balance and some just feel like they can’t.
Talk about it. Make her feel good about herself. In my expeience it’s mostly about self-image and self-confidence. So work on that and then you might get your sexy beast back.
Both our second marriage. Wife 39, I’m 47. Tried a third person twice. Then a friend of the family who works on oil platforms came to stay. He works 3 weeks then has 1 week at home. He is 33. No other relationships except his own hand. We both have her together and he has her as much as he or she wants in his week with us. He has a lot of stamina. He is a nice size and he will do anything she wants. We have 3 weeks of normal life then 1 week of anything goes. It does work. All very happy.
Sounds like you both were seeking something like this and then this guy fell into your laps. Very hot. I hope it doesn’t get too predictable or that no one feels responsible for doing anything in that one week. But if all those things are avoided that’s a pretty sweet set up :)
It never ceases to amaze me how some guys SAY they want to see their wife enjoy herself with another guy, yet they get jealous and possessive if she does something with her lover they consider out of the ordinary. Or she hasn't done for them. Guys, if you can't stand the heat. Stay out of the kitchen.
I sorta agree. I mean, you have to know she’s going to be different with other men. That’s just the reality. And in doing something so lustful, so taboo, with that line crossed she might just do things in the heat of the moment. I think that’s the hottest part myself but I know some seem to take it personally. If that’s you, then you might just want to keep this a fantasy.
My wife has worked out who our fuck buddy is. Although she doesn't fancy him she still wants us to have our threesomes as she likes the way he fucks her. I asked if she still wants to be blindfolded & she dose. She likes us both to come inside her now & occasionally treats him to anal which he loves. He comes loads & has it leaking from her for days. She has said that she would like to try three men, the only problem with that is where to find someone who is as trustworthy as our fuck buddy?
I thought she’d figure out who it was. Women are good like that. Sounds like she enjoys the freedom the blindfold gives her and wow, another guy to the mix. Finding safe, trustworthy dudes is always tough I think. I’m hoping you do find one tho!
A few years ago my wife told me of her college life. She had plenty of casual relationships but no long termers. She shared an apartment with her really good friend (best). He was gay. He had no interest in women but if she wanted it, he would lick her to make her cum. She would suck him off in return. He was ok with that. A mouth is a mouth. After college they stopped doing this but since finding out I have encouraged her to do it again. He knows I know and want it but they haven’t done it yet.
I am 46 and hubby is 55. He is very happy for me to have sexual freedom with who I like. He does not want to take part but insists I am open about it. He also insists any lovers are younger than me. Much younger is better. I will go to their place but hubby really likes them to see me here. He makes himself scare. Its a second marriage for both of us and we are very happy. When we are alone our sex life is excellent and frequent but I love my freedom.
Sounds like you’ve found what works for you both. Thanks for sharing!
This is a video of a very hot white woman with a black guy. The husband doesn’t speak but at :50 seconds the guy licks one of her nipples and she makes a very sexy face at him (the cameraman). She also makes some very brief eye contact while she’s sucking on his big cock at 3:30 too. The best part of the video is at 10:55 the cameraman comes in for a blowjob while the black guy is fucking her. She’s purring like a kitten and really goes after his cock.
continued... We have been married for a long time and yes the spark has diminished so I have suggested this lifestyle to my wife but she's against it. I think this is the flaw with monogamy, after a while you've seen all of your spouses tricks and may be tempted to stray. I would much rather be the anchor in our relationship and allow her to play with my full support than get a divorce because the rest of our marriage is rock solid. Just my 2 cents.
RE: The woman who has already had a couple of lovers. What she did was cheat on her husband and that is the kind of stuff that kills a marriage. What I find nice about this hotwife/cuckold/wife sharing lifestyle is everything is out in the open there is no sneaking around. I would much rather have my wife talk to me about our sex life lacking then have an affair. If you love someone you find a way to make it work. Continued...
Hi there, my hubby is ten years older than me and is having erection problems, and we've had long talks about me finding other lovers, he is also a voyeur and wants to watch me being fucked by other men. I love the idea and am glad that he feels so open about this. He doesn't know that I have already had several lovers, and the thought of him watching as another man dumps a big load of cum in me gets me so wet.
Well, I’m glad that you’re finding a way to work around those health issues. Not cool about having lovers behind his back tho. I mean, if he is into watching you getting fucked then do it together and let him see you as you get your pussy creamed by another guy ;)
I’m a lady of 35 and read here that your wife had 2 guys in the same day when single. So did I on a few occasions. I dream about those days and want them again. I have my slut fantasy where my husband just leaves me with 3 or 4 guys to do what they want. We pretend to do this but that is all my husband will do. I beg him and want others to fuck me. I love him, he makes me cum but its so predictable. He gets nervous when I sunbake naked. What if someone sees me. Who cares.
Thanks for sharing! It’s great to get a woman’s point of view. Sunbaking naked seems pretty tame. And so what if someone sees you! But that does show that your husband is pretty conservative in real life situations. If he’s worried about others just seeing you naked, seeing you fucking a stud or studs is WAY out there.
Makes me sad since I know a lot of guys reading would love it if their wife were as eager as you. I assume you’ve talked about it extensively? Have you maybe tried babysteps like going out and flirting or dancing?
I have put my hot wife in touch with her last (only her second) black lover. They will now be able to communicate directly by email and by phone. It was a big step for me and we BOTH are excited about it. Many here may think I’m crazy, but it is what we both want to do. We can’t wait to read his first note together (that’s part of the deal) and I can’t wait to see how hot and wet her pussy gets after reading his note!! In the past she has not wanted to communicate directly with her men, but now she wants it that way!! Again, we BOTH get excited about taking this next step in her hot wife life and my role to serve her!!
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like you’re a bit more submissive than I’d be but if this is what gets you off and you’re being safe about it then go for it. I hope you’ve had the talk about when the conversation between the two of them might get uncomfortable. It’s not for me. I want the interaction and communication to between my wife and I. And I wouldn’t want to suddenly have a talk with her about breaking off contact with some guy. I’d just like to avoid that altogether. But different strokes and all that.
We have just started to include guy who was our neighbour. His wife died and he hadn’t had sex with a woman for 18 months. All is going well but what shocked me that the second time we both fucked het together. Me in the backdoor him in the front. When we finished, she wanted him again. She licked him clean. His cock was covered with his cum and her juice. She sucked him hard and mounted him. She has never done that to me. I told her that later. She is sorry but just felt like doing it.
Thanks for sharing! Sounds very hot. But I think she shouldn’t feel sorry and you shouldn’t make her feel guilty about it. In the heat of doing something that passionate and lustful I think you are bound to do things you didn’t before. When you’re crossing that line you can’t expect to react the same way. That’s the way I see it. So I’d make sure you let her know you were surprised but also turned on - I hope you were - seeing her let loose and explore her sexuality and just act on it.
Here is a lot of female perspective from what appear to be a bride / wedding website. Oh, and she did the MMF if you read far enough.
Thanks for sharing this. It’s fascinating to see it all play out in such a vanilla setting. And it’s amazing how many of these ‘wedding’ gals are living vicariously here - they have the desire but not the ‘balls’ to go through with it.