No one wants to see their wife enjoy a man in front of their eyes any more than I do. To put it lightly, not a day ever passes without thinking about it several times. My wife allowed me this privilege 2 times and all I can say is that it’s not over rated. It’s one thing to watch porn and quite another thing to see watch the woman that you idolize, cherish and love fuck another man. I have read countless articles from sperm wars to “having homosexual tendencies”.
I know my desires are deep rooted and best intended to my wife and I have no desires for men sexually. To say that this subject is complicated is an understatement. I know what like minded men go through on this quest and also understand that the things that enter their minds do so with no fault to them. I believe that most men have these desires but the individuals that don’t give in to societies guidelines are more apt to fail to keep these feelings suppressed. This is what makes it so complicated.
Women don’t generally have these desires and are conditioned to attempt monogamy and really have to wrestle with the unorthodox thinking that their man want to see them with another. My wife was in her twenties when she did this. Being young I think she did it 80% for me and 20% for her out of curiosity. They were both hung, I made sure of that, with the last one being in the monster class 10 1/2 inches. Due to a great deal of patience on the behalf of the man she took all but about an inch. I am wired right for this as I never had a ping of jealousy and only admired the sexual creature I had married.
Now a mother, half way through her thirties and still hot as hell, she is a really tough sell on this. I have resorted to encouraging her to have sex without me present. I did this about a year ago and to this she did not say no as she did countless times to letting me watch her again. It’s been a year and she has not yet taking me up on my offer.
I encourage her to dress provocative when she leaves the house and she enjoys that. I encourage her to go out for drinks with both men and women by herself and while she enjoys the sense of freedom so far hasn’t exercised it. She works where she is the only woman and I am sure that she gets plenty of attention but she is home every night like clockwork.
I know from reading this blog for over a year that you will say this is not for you and that this is something you must do together and I of course wish very much I could have it this way. However no is no and I am sure if she comes home late some night and lays next to me freshly fucked with a spark in her eye I will get a major woody and most likely some amazing sex. And if I am lucky I will show her my commitment to her to the level that she will want to give me the opportunity to witness the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life again. In the mean time she gets to enjoy her sexuality if she so chooses.
To those that remain frustrated remember that it could be worse, she could cheat.
Thank you SO much for sharing this! Wonderful description of the desire and the conflict women have in realizing this fantasy. And while I do want to be there to see my wife I might, like you, take what I could get if my wife showed interest in playing alone. Not sure but it’s a powerful think and I do idolize and cherish my wife and would want to support her if she wanted that. Don’t think that is her thing but never say never, right?
I hope something more happens for you and thank you for sharing your insight and experience. I think it’ll help a lot of readers.