FYI - i also was adamant about being present but let me just tell you - i let her go meet a guy for what was supposed to be a little pre-session (a BJ) to whet his beak until the main session a few nights later. so she got all business slutty dressed up and split to her office which is just hers and they met and it was hella hot!! they stuck to the bj but at the end they were so hot they had sex. i only let her go alone on the condition that she learn and use the video camera which she did.
Thanks for sharing! That’s pretty hot. I bet that video is something you watch again and again :)
The being there versus not is an interesting dynamic. I am nearly certain I’d want to be there but I will say that the times we text when she’s out with the girls is a huge turn on too.
Like I said, I want to be there but I used to think I would not be able to handle kissing but then that turned me on when she did it on dance night. So I leave the door open at this point. The biggest reason for me to be there in some ways is to ensure she’s safe and that she doesn’t completely lose herself and do something dangerous. And I think she could if she just let herself cross that line completely.
In your role play with your wife do you or she fantasize about her being in a threesome with two different guys? Have your tried DP with the dildo or is she not into that?
No, usually it’s one stud and myself. And we do DP with me and the dildo on a pretty regular basis now. She loves getting double fucked and cums very hard when we do.
My lady took some convincing but did it for me. But now loves it and can’t get enough of different guys it seems. I am no cuck but my wife really likes to head this way. She has had a couple of away ones but likes me there. Thats when she will try take control and devote a lot of time to the other guy. She likes to see me squirm but then makes it up to me. Its a case I think of women using her power to control the situation.
Thanks for sharing. I’d like to think that for many who finally do cross the line, they figure out that this is a pretty great situation. It sounds like she knows exactly the buttons to push that gets you off and there’s no doubt that many women probably enjoy the sense of control they have.
My wife and I divorced 5 years ago. We have both remarried new partners. My new wife was a friend of my first wife. We all get on well. About 6 months ago we swapped partners and it went well. For me it was fantastic to slip into my first wife after about 4 years absence. Sex was never the problem with the first marriage and I think if we had swapped or shared with others then we would still be together. No complaining though, my new wife is super hot as well.
Thanks for sharing. That’s an interesting situation. Not sure I’d want all the old connections like that hanging around as the new husband. Must have been hot to be with her again though.
You need to go out more often so there is a greater chance of having a successful night. My wife and I have a date night once a month without fail, sometimes twice if we get the chance. Sounds like you've got some time planned now but why not make it a regular thing?
You are 100% correct! And I’m hoping that I can make it a more regular thing. Working on it. For now I’m stoked that there are two weekends and four nights in the next month where we have a potential opportunity to go out.
Seeing as how bad the last club we went to was I’m hoping to get her back to the club where ‘it’ happened again.
On Monday nights I pick up my wife from her lovers hotel. They have dinner and drinks so she can’t drive and would have to stay there all night. He’s her old boss where she worked before and has been doing her for years. He stays in town one night a week. I know him but don’t go in. She is always very happy when she gets in the car and ready for more then but mostly I make her wait until we are home. I don’t see a problem with it, she seems to need it and I never miss out.
Thanks for sharing! I’m continually amazed at how many others do this sort of thing and the different ways they take place. I can’t imagine doing this weekly but that’s me and not you and your wife. That’s the awesome thing every couple can find the stuff that gets THEM off. Those who do I think wind up being very happy. Those who stay with what others tell them should get them off probably not happy.
I agree with you on the "her doing it alone thing" might be fun for some but its an absolutely not for me! Also, I guess I missed the phone sex thing... could you tell the story again?
Not much to tell. Back in the chat rooms days I convinced her to have sex with me as we typed with people and then that led to her calling a guy one time to describe how she’d suck him.
He turned into a bit of a dick so even though it was sort of hot she was kinda turned off by the idea of finding someone who would be cool.
Having wrote "the waiting is tough", just want you to know I hope you get what you want too. The point I was trying to make is sometimes no matter how much we "wish" and plan out steps, she will never do it. Or my case after twice refuse more. To another point I was trying to make is once you see your wife with another and you realize that you do indeed like it you soon know that once or twice is not enough. Compatibility becomes the key. Frustrated I now look for "something" to hang my hat on.
Totally get that! I know that the time that my wife went just a little bit into the reality it wasn’t planned. And that since any plans haven’t really worked out. It’s just not a paint by numbers thing :(
Interesting that once the fantasy is fulfilled that it doesn’t go away but only becomes stronger. I’ve given that a lot of thought actually and figured it would be like that. I know just what i’ve seen thus far makes me crave more so I totally get where you’re coming from.
I’m sorry you’re currently stuck in neutral but like you say, it’s not plannable and waiting is tough but it might just happen when you least expect it.
Thanks for sharing!